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Clint Rahe
The Performance Edge Training and Consulting
Corporate training, leadership development, and coaching
In this transformative episode of Biz Bites for Thought Leaders, Anthony Perl sits down with Clint Rihe, former RAF physical training instructor turned high-performance coach and author of “The Cognitive Athlete.” Clint shares his remarkable journey from military adventure training to helping corporate professionals achieve sustainable peak performance.
Clint reveals the critical concept that changed his coaching approach: business leaders are “cognitive athletes” who use their minds like athletes use their bodies, requiring intentional training, recovery, and periodization. He introduces cognitive periodization – the four phases of conditioning, transition, performance, and recovery – and explains why the corporate expectation of year-round peak performance is unsustainable and dangerous.
The conversation explores the 25-minute meeting hack that saves hours every week, how to identify your chronotype for optimal productivity, why your body keeps the score of accumulated stress, and the hidden health costs facing business owners in their 50s. Clint shares powerful insights on setting boundaries, planning your year like an athlete, and why females are 80% more likely to suffer stress-related autoimmune diseases.
Whether you’re a business owner, executive, or knowledge worker, this episode offers invaluable strategies for achieving peak performance without burning out.
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Intentionally boosting your performance as a thought leader, as a business leader. That is the focus of today’s episode of Biz Bites for Thought Leaders. Special guest, Clint Ray. There are so many tips in this particular episode. I’ve never before considered myself as being a cognitive athlete, but that’s a term that you’re gonna become a little bit more familiar with and you’ll understand better why this is so important to every business, not just for yourself as the leader, but also for your team.
Jam packed with tips and things for you to do and implement. You don’t wanna miss this episode of Biz Bites for Thought Leaders, so let’s get into it.
Hello everyone, and welcome to another episode of Biz Bites for Thought Leaders. I know we’re going to have a very interesting discussion today covering all sorts of things, but firstly, I just want to introduce my guest. Clint, welcome to the program. Thanks, Anthony. Looking forward to it. We’ve gotta start off by letting you introduce yourself to the audience.
So why don’t you tell everyone a little bit about yourself? Yeah. Great. Thanks. My name’s Clint Ray, so I’m a high performance coach speaker facilitator and recent author. Of the cognitive athlete. So I’ve been my story started years ago in the RAF fs. I’ve taken a lot of military training that I’ve done over my career and I transitioned into a corporate life.
I’m a business owner as well, so I’ve taken a lot of those learnings from years ago, put them into corporate and as I run a lot of trainings and I do a lot of coaching and what’s really interesting is that. Back in years ago, we were actually, I think we were quite ahead of the game in terms of like cognitive performance, physical performance, whether it’s productivity, time management, or energy.
And then now in, in the corporate sphere and being a business owner, I don’t see any of that, any of these principles I learned years ago. So really, I focus on bringing. Practical, actionable steps into, in, into corporate life really to help my clients and to help business owners achieve more. And especially with the time that, that everyone has, right?
I’ve got loads of stories and no doubt we’ll get into it as we go through. So that’s me in a nutshell. Absolutely. I love it. And I, taking things back to the basics it’s such an important thing to do because it gets so quickly glanced over there’s one of those things that happens, isn’t there?
There’s this assumption of knowledge and assumption of things being done, yet they’re not actually being done. Yeah. Correct. And look, I think, we have, and especially nowadays, there are so many notifications and so many apps and so many ways of doing things and tools that. People just forget all of that stuff and it becomes too hard and they just, had a saying, you always default to level of the training that you’ve had and if you’ve actually had no training, then you’re swimming against the tide I think a lot of the time.
So let’s just delve a little bit into your background because I think it’s important for people to understand that. ’cause you touched on it a little bit. So tell me, back in high school, early university days where the study, where was the dream and where did you end up going? Yeah, good. I think out of school, I dreamt of being a professional footballer, right?
In the Premier League, like everyone does, but then reality hits and I was, I’ll say it was pretty fortunate. My, my parents were in the military, so they’re in the army back in the uk and. And there was an ultimatum, then they said Clint you’re either gonna get a job in the UK or you’re gonna come back with us.
And I was fortunate enough to apply for the RAF as a physical training instructor, and I was accepted. And and that’s when my journey started really, in, in the military. And, so many valuable lessons within there that I learned. And and I guess the dreaming, I was doing a levels, which I think it’s, I’m not sure what they’re called here, maybe hires hHSC. Yeah, HHSC. So I was doing physical education, so it was like a really natural fit. I’m, good at sport or play all different sports. And going into the military in that environment as a fitness specific fitness instructor where you actually get to train and teach all of these skills and. And sports was just phenomenal.
Let’s, it is one of the best decisions ever made. And then, you start your military career and you realize, oh, that, so there is sport and there is fitness, but there’s also military aspect on that as well. And it’s given me some, amazing opportunities. And I think being I was what, 21 at the time?
I think. And it just sculpts you, it helps with your decision making and your work ethic and puts a really good grounding into where we’re at today, pretty much. So what became the focus in the military? What were you mostly doing? Yeah, so look, I, we all start as a fitness instructor.
We start in the gym. So we, we’re training military personnel for operations in whether it’s Iraq or Afghanistan or the Middle East or wherever they’re deployed. So we keep the base level of fitness up and we work on their teamwork, resilience mindset and then. That’s one part of it.
And then we have, I’ve worked in another part in which it’s trainees. So we’re working back at recruitment level. So when people come into the military, no matter what trade they are, whether they are aircraft technicians, whether they’re pilots, whether they’re medical or navigation or or pilots, nav, we, take them through their training. So we build the robustness and resilience within them. So then when they do finished training, they go out on deployments, then they’re good to go. So that was the sort of foundational core cornerstone. And then as you then progress up my specialty, then I went into a stream of adventure training.
So you could either choose to be a, like a physio remedial instructor, a parachute jump instructor, didn’t fancy jumping out of planes. Perfectly serviceable planes for a living, or you can go adventure training, which is like that whole outward bounds aspect. So I really focused on that. And we used to take people for a week at a time, and we used to take them into Wales or Scotland, and we used to work on their personal and professional development.
So work on communication skills and leadership and delegation all within a week. And then we’d set them free then. So we’d give them this sort of structure. Put them under pressure, work on some really good skills that they’re gonna use out in deployment in a, I say in a safe environment. So we used to go down the mines in Wales with head torches.
So we used to go up on high ropes and, sit from down zip pines in a controlled environment. So then when they go out to, wherever they’re going out in the Middle East, they’re able to deal with the pressure a little bit better because we’ve showed them skills and techniques. And as a result of all of that stuff, I was really fortunate enough to work with premier League football teams rugby league teams loads of other different sports from skiing to hockey to, to rugby to canoeing and kayaking.
Using the skills of that we’ve learned really around robustness and resilience, especially with your mindset as well. Say that’s, in a snapshot, my background in the military. Like I said, it is just phenomenal. The experience I tell all young people, join up no matter what force it is, you’re gonna get looked after.
And, they give you some really great experiences there. What an amazing little snapshot of a career you’ve had there. Just casually dropping not only the military, but various sporting areas and things to get into. And that must have been a fascinating area for you. Obviously, as you said, the childhood dream was premier League, so getting to work with Premier League teams and work with, and back here in, and you’ve now moved to Australia and Rugby League teams and the like.
What’s that experience like and how do move away from that experience? ’cause you no longer doing that, are you? So what’s interesting that is if I go to where my book is at the moment all of the, these skills, so working, if I think around the military, so we had it’s called pre-deployment training.
So before you go out to a deployment, wherever that may be. We do 12 weeks of, and if I think around periodization, so you do conditioning phase, you do a transition phase. And then you’re in this performance zone which actually is your deployment. And then we have a decompression, so like a recovery.
Now I’ve used that with athletes. We do that naturally on deployment training within the military. And once we once actually understood that, we used to go in, so going back to your Premier League football teams and other championship teams, we would then work on their, their condition face.
So before the season started, we would take, we’d take them out, we’d build up their fitness robustness and resilience out outside of the football pitch. So then when they’re put under pressure as the season goes on, we’re building this, resilient mindset around certain behaviors and boosting their sort of base, core level fitness up.
And you will see this within I read a book recently around the All Blacks, they. They go and they work with the SAS or the, they go work with the commandos to just a different level of training, different intensity. Military and sports are pretty similar with that. When, and I’ve really loved that environment because it was, we, it was planned.
We’re planning 12 weeks here, we’re planning four weeks here. And then when you come back from your operations, then, having two, two to three weeks off, and then that whole cycle starts again. Same within sports. I think the difference is when we are working in that environment, if you get an injury, then yes, it’s a setback, but there’s a, a recuperation, there’s a, there, there’s a, we need to then fix the muscles to then do our rehab, to then get back on the pitch.
And when I came over in the corporate life, I don’t see any of this at all. We’re expected to be. After Australia Day in, in Australia, in Australia from, yeah, end of January, we’re supposed to be on peak performance all the way until December, right? So I don’t see any planning, any preparation.
There’s no rest and recovery for a lot of corporate professionals. I’ve taken all of that experience and I’m working with clients, and businesses on that as well because we have these peaks and troughs in the season. Working in, in seasons in professional sport, there’s a start and there’s a finish and we know what winning is.
Winning is being, whether it’s Premier League champions or win willing, sorry, winning the cup. Being premiers, we know that and we know it’s between these times and, corporate, we don’t have it. And I started to question that when I transitioned across and I thought, this is it’s unsustainable.
We can’t keep doing that. And especially now as a business owner. You are on all the time. But cognitively that doesn’t help you. So we’re taking the principles of sport and then applying them to, to our brains and the way that we think and how we manage our energy as well.
Yeah it is a really interesting idea that if you look at a typical sports team, a football team, doesn’t matter which code, the season is usually 20 plus weeks long. There’s no way that. Players are conditioned to be performing an optimum level round one in the same way that they’re gonna be performing grand final day.
You have to build up to that over a period of time. Yet in business, we’re expecting people day one of the year to be showing up at that high performance level and to continue sustaining that at a high performance level until such time as they take a break. If they take a break it’s crazy, really.
Yeah. Yeah. Look a absolutely. And I started to think about my experience and I thought, yeah, this is ridiculous. And I’m coming from, yeah, it got me into a bit of trouble. I’ll be honest, when I started my second career, my corporate career, because my frame of reference is different. I had boundary, I had really quite strict boundaries.
Start at 8, 8 30, a finish at five, and that was it. It was done and people were staying late until six, seven o’clock at night to do their work. And, I said is anyone gonna die? If you wouldn’t, if you were to leave now, is anyone gonna die from the results of that? If the answer is no one’s gonna die, leave it till tomorrow.
Because guess what? Work is never gonna diminish. Because the more effort you put into work, the more work that gets generated. So the work is always going to be there. Your health your happiness, you know that could be taken away at any point. And the interesting thing is I started writing the book and I started doing a lot of research.
Your body keeps the score. What that means is that your body accumulates this low level stress over a certain period of time, and you can get away with it when you are younger, but when you get into 50, maybe it’s 45, 45 to 50, 55, when you are a C-suite, you’re a business owner. You need to be peak energy, you’re absolutely diminished.
And you’ve got health complications on top of that as well. You’re right, we need to start thinking of our. Of our business of our working life as seasons, and we need to be able to peak and we need to recover. And there are natural peaks and troughs within everyone’s year. So we need to be a little bit more specific in and intentional with, how we look at rest and recovery.
How we look at our, just our conditioning, our habits. And then when we have these peak moments where we need to be, on the ball, we can manufacture that so that’s the whole. Premise behind, taking all this sports and military concepts into corporate to just, to be able to help.
That’s what’s interesting to me is how do you work that out, what those peaks and troughs should be? Because again, in the sports analogy, it is easy to go okay, we are working towards grand final day, so we need to know, we need to know that at a certain point we’re gonna need to peak because that’s when it has to happen.
It’s not as clear in business necessarily, because you don’t nec, you don’t know what’s around the corner and you’re operating against other things. You could say, okay, look, right now, February looks like it’ll be fairly easing into it. But then suddenly you get a phone call on the 1st of February saying, we need this now.
And suddenly you’ve gotta go from relaxed holiday mode to peak performance. How do you coach around that? Yeah. Good point. Each industry we have seasons and business owners have seasons. What you’re talking about there. Yeah, a hundred percent. I get it. Especially if you are like a solopreneur, for example, and you’re the only person to do that work.
If I think about a business owner, and I’ve worked with a few of them and they are absolutely run off their feet and they have teams of people. So I said let’s look at your year. So the first one we need to do is look at your previous 12 months and we need to then identify the peaks and troughs.
So when we were always on or when, when it was a bit slow. Then we look ahead and we try and plan out as best we can in terms of our peaks and troughs. Like in let’s take a, let’s take business owners. Maybe we could work quarterly, right? So maybe we work in quarterly sprints. And then at the end of the quarter, I’m not gonna say, oh, you need to take a week off because they, it’s pretty difficult, right?
But maybe we can take. A Friday and a Monday off. So then we have a longer holiday, and then that could be our decompression before then we go into our next quarter. I think if we look at the whole year in totality, and we don’t break it down into these quarters these quarterly sprints, you end up just running on fumes.
And this time of year you’re more susceptible to, to, for, to getting sickness and illnesses because of the let down effect. We need to, look at your previous 12 months, identify next 12 months, and then let’s start plotting in. I times when we are on peak performance, we look at automotive, I’ve worked in automotive.
There are sales cycles. Everyone has a sales cycle. If you’re like me as a consultant, we know January is a dip. So we can use this time to recover. And then it’s not until March, April that it starts to pick up. And then we have a bit of a dip again because of, Easter and public holidays.
And then we have the mid dip, the midyear dip. And then from Octobers, SEPs, sorry, September, October, November, we’re looking at p we need to be in peak performance before we then start to tail off as we get through to December. So everyone has a cycle. It’s just to really stop and reflect over our last 12 months and then look forward to the next 12 months of booking those holidays.
And how much does adrenaline play a part in it? Because, again, using the sports analogy, adrenaline’s pretty easy to to, watch because. Things ramp up in the course of the game and the adrenaline increases and so on. But in a business sense it can flow on day to day, right?
Where you have a day where things just are being fired at you and you’re having to step up until you are, and then that adrenaline carries on and suddenly you are operating at a different level. How do you manage that process as well? Yeah, look, good point. Especially if we think about this time of year in December, adrenaline is firing a lot.
So we’ve got a lot of adrenaline. We’ve got a lot of cortisol and what tends to happen that suppresses all of our immune system to keep us, working. But then when it comes to end of December, our body goes, ah, of course. Then suddenly we get sick and but what’s been happening is we got sick about two weeks ago, but our bodies, keeping the immune system fighting before we then switch off we can take if we think around periodization, for example, what I’m talking about is, let’s look at your annual training plan.
Then let’s break that down into smaller, let’s say quarterly chunks, and then we can break those quarterly chunks down into weekly sprints. So if we’re looking for a week and your adrenaline is high, we need to think about, okay, let’s say Thursday for example, we’ve got back to back meetings all day and it goes all the way through the night.
What are you doing on Friday to a. Lower your cortisol, what are you doing to lower your adrenaline to recover before we go again for the next one. Because if we ha, and this is this is the low level stress we’re talking about over the accumulated effects of low level stress, high adrenaline for 30 years, that has a massive impact on diseases that, that you’re likely to get.
As a result of all that accumulated stress you could have things like cardiovascular disease, diabetes. Coronary artery, coronary vascular disease. We could have celiac, for example, any number of autoimmune conditions because we haven’t had an outlet for getting rid of the, the corsol and the adrenaline as we go through.
What do you do to recover? What are some recovery strategies? Rather than going back to back with whether it’s meetings, whether there’s high intensity work that you have to do. All the research is clear. Your brain needs a break. And what’s interesting is if you’re a female, for example, you’re 80% more likely to suffer from autoimmune disease brought on through years of stress, right?
And that’s what all the research is saying at the moment. Where’s our stress load? What are we doing about it? Can we then put in, moments of recovery? I’m not saying a week off, maybe it is, 30 minutes, a 30 minute break in the day. So you can de, deregulate, downshift before you then upshift again.
Yeah, it’s an interesting one because I know I personally, make sure that there is a switch off period from Friday afternoon until. At least Saturday night. And normally it’s Sunday as well. And it’s part of, it’s training your yourself and training your clients as well, that you’re not gonna be available in that period of time.
And it’s amazing what happens when you do train those around you that this is my time to not be at work. That it actually, people go, okay, that’s fine. And suddenly they can save things up for Monday. Absolutely. Look and we are in Australia and New Zealand, we are the poor cousins, right? And this is a fact because we, if we think if you’re working for a global organization, you are on 24 7, right?
And the higher you get, the demands and the expectations just don’t stop. And you could, you’d be starting work at 6:00 AM and then you’ll be on. Zoom and teams calls at 10, 11 o’clock at night, and then you are answering emails from your US team at six in the morning, and then you’ve got your Australian team.
So it’s just this cyclical cycle and we are people pleasers in Australia because we need the business. We wanna say yes to all these global heads of businesses, but at what cost, and I guarantee and it’s strange when I say this to people like say no. And they’re, I can’t say no to my boss.
I’m like let’s train it then. I’m not gonna say a flat out, no. I’m gonna say, Hey, are there any available other available times given the fact it’s two in the morning my time? Can we shift this to another? Most people don’t even think about that. They just accept, okay, I’ll just turn up at two in the morning.
And I’m like, are you gonna be cognitively making the best decisions because. I guarantee you’re not gonna be. So then are you making the best decision? Are you thinking clearly? No. Are you getting good sleep? No. So what is the impact the next day? Oh, I’ll just have a glass of wine before bed and I’ll knock myself out.
And I’m like, yeah, but you’re accumulating all this, sleep debt all this cortisol, all the adrenaline at two in the morning. It’s really disrupting your hormonal balance. So it comes back to a lot of discipline. But what you said there, training people around you is so important.
I’m not gonna say to people you need to say no, and you have to these boundaries. It’s let’s see, set these boundaries up. And the way we do that is by communicating our availability and training people. So we delegate and we train and say, Hey look, this is what I want you to do. Here’s, here is the outcome that I’m looking for.
Here’s a template. Go and use that between these hours and those hours. And, intentionally unavailable. So we talk about time blocking. So if, for example, Fridays us, let’s say you are you are slower day because everyone solved their problems for the week and you’ve got like a block or two or three hours, use that for strategic planning.
But. Block it out. Book a meeting room, turn everything off. You know your phone off. Do not disturb. Put your out of office on turn, your notifications off. Then you can work in deep work and you can have that break. Same when you are resting and recovering. If Friday afternoon you want to go and play golf, go and do it, but put you out of office on Do Not Disturb.
What I tend to find is when people, they’re like, I can’t do that because I get emails all the time and I get phone calls. I’m like, yeah, but you put your do not disturb on. Guess what? People have to phone twice. So it’s a bit of a barrier to stop people, getting hold of you for you to solve their problems because we’re, we’re creatures a habit.
We try and take the path to least resistance. So I’ll just phone my boss. Hey Anthony, can you handle with this? Oh yeah, absolutely. Just do this. So what we’re trying to do is actually empower our teams to take greater responsibility by delegating effectively and then blocking those times in our.
In our calendar for us to be effective and deregulate ourselves, so our on peak performance. There’s so much in what you just said there and I know, but just it made me recall a story. And this goes back I, I’m gonna say it’s go back. It’s gonna go back, 20 plus years. And so phones weren’t quite as sophisticated as they are now.
And so the do not disturb and, switching off notifications wasn’t as available. And I’ll never forget there was A-C-E-O-I was working with at the time. Was traveling. He went to the uk. He didn’t tell everyone that he’d gone to the UK and one of the senior managers rang him to ask him something and the CEO picks up the phone stupidly at what was two o’clock in the morning in the UK and said, is it something urgent?
No. And he said look, I’m actually in the uk. It’s two o’clock in the morning. And the senior manager said I’ve got you awake now, so I may as well ask you the questions and proceeded to, take him on for the next 10 minutes. And we all had a bit of a laugh about it at the time, but the truth is you do have to respect.
People’s boundaries and part of it is putting on those notifications and keeping to them and understanding I’m not going to respond at this time because I know personally I’ve been very guilty over the years of just being completely responsive to it. And if you are responding to emails and phone calls all day long, you’re not gonna get any work done.
You think about this, most people, that’s the case, right? And the more, guess what, the more emails you send, the more work that you are gonna get back, the more emails you get back. And we can put another, a layer on top of this as well and think about what’s your chronotype. So are you a morning person?
So you got your peak energy in the morning. Is it afternoon or is it, are you an owl in the later hours of the day? Do you come alive? Our body’s got these natural rhythms, circadian rhythm. It’s a 24 hour timing device that your body’s got, and people have got different circadian rhythms, so it’s working with your rhythm too to get the best outcome.
If I take, if you’re a morning person, for example, your peak window is probably gonna be from eight 30 to nine 30. So about an hour where you are on peak concentration, peak focus. So what are we doing between those two tho that hour? We’re checking emails, we’re, firefighting. We’re putting all these things out, and then our bodies naturally will go into this trough which is your mid-morning slump, which we then bridge with a coffee or a red bull or something like that for us to then go up to our afternoon peak, and then we dip down again.
So we have these like peaks and troughs as we go through the day. So we need to be prioritizing ourselves, for us to be able to deliver effectively. The work that we need to deliver. So my advice a lot of the time is, here, fill out this questionnaire. Tell me what chronotype you are. Let’s look at your calendar.
Let’s start really protecting these peak performance hours. Because if you are working against your circadian rhythm, it’s taking you more often, not twice as long to do your work. Yeah, I’m an afternoon person, so between three and five I am on fire. But in the morning it takes me ages to get going, so I wouldn’t, do any accounting or finance or spreadsheets or anything I need to spend detail on, because my natural energy is not peaking in the morning.
It’s peaking in the afternoon. So it’s working with those with your body type as well to really protect that. But you really need to communicate that to your team. So I would recommend getting a team in to, to look at each individual and then look at your. Workflow as a whole and then really time block and be disciplined about saying no to things.
A lot of the time, you know a lot, and you’ll know this a lot, a lot of my clients, they get bombarded in the morning and the first thing they say to them is if anyone comes into you says, oh, hey Anthony, can you help with this? You say, tell you what come back at five 30 if you’ve still got that problem.
How many people come back at five 30? None of them. It’s the same with teams messages. If they message you on teams and you work for an organization, I would just intentionally leave it until the afternoon. Nine times out of 10, you just send them a little message to say, oh, hey, I’m just catching up on this problem.
Oh no, it’s all fixed. No worries. We’re building in some little filters to filter people out. Because guess what? If they. If on your phone they phone twice in a row, that comes straight through. So you know something’s urgent and important. If it isn’t, then you know they’re gonna leave a message and then that’s another triage thing, and then you can get your phone to email you that message or to text you that message.
So we’re building in these barriers to say no, but it all comes back to that discipline to. Not look at your emails when you’re on holiday or schedule a time in to look at your emails and then push everything out because we, we can’t be living in this world of constant triggering. And, our attention is being grabbed by everywhere.
So when we’re recovering, and when we’re working. So it’s just you’re working with your rhythm whether it’s you, your body your team. It’s interesting what you say there because it just made me flash back to a Seinfeld episode from that going back somewhat sometime, but talking about the fact that we don’t give people an opportunity to miss us anymore.
They’re constantly able to access us no matter what, and you get frustrated when they don’t. I know this morning I had to go to the shops and my wife had asked me for a couple of things. I’m at standing at the shops and I’m not sure which one she wants, and I’m trying to phone her, and then I’m getting frustrated that she’s not answering her phone.
It’s but this is the norm, right? This is what the expectations are. So we have to change those expectations for the people around us. And I think one of the challenges though, that many businesses face is, and even smaller businesses, is you’re dealing with time zones. And that might be internally as well as externally.
Many teams have. Or many small businesses, I should say, have teams that are located overseas, and so there are time differences that you have to deal with. So then when you’re talking about optimal times for people to perform. It could be that you have two people that are morning people, but one’s three hours behind you.
And so by the time you are hitting your lull, they’re in their peak. So you have to be mindful of all of those things as well. And I think that’s an important idea that you are suggesting is mapping out where everyone in the team is. Yeah. Yeah. Absolutely. And we’re not always gonna be in the same zone, right?
People are so different, but. What we can do, let’s say they’re two or three hours behind, or maybe two or three hours ahead, is maybe to share the pain, right? So maybe we have one meeting in my time, one meeting in your time. Maybe we do the questionnaire together. We work out, ah, actually guess what? It works out that your afternoon, when you’re on peak is my morning.
So that works out really well for us to be able to, to work together. But what I’m saying really that this whole thing is just to be mindful, right? Yeah I’m working on my own different time zone in terms of my peak focus and energy. You are working on your own. There are gonna be times when you’re gonna ask me a question and I won’t be able to think straight.
So I need to then be able to respond effectively back to that. And it’s the same thing with these back to back meetings in teams, since COVID, everyone’s on teams and they can look at your calendar and just b, keep booking appointments. I think the practice of being intentionally unavailable is so key.
Our parents, like you mentioned, had this where you finish work. There’s no mobile phones back then. There’s no emails. Everything was left at the office, and guess what? They all survived. So I know the expectations though, it will be around customers, right? So when customers phone you, how long does it take for you to answer that phone call?
And this is where I think it’s really interesting times at the moment with AI and chat bots. And is there some integrations that you can then work into to the way that you do things so then customers don’t feel disappointed? Or can you just automate some of your processes to, to take the. The heavy lifting off.
’cause what? What we are ultimately, we’re cognitive athletes, we are knowledge workers, so we use our brains to, to make decisions, to think clearly, to be creative. All the processing stuff of a production line worker, for example. That can be done by ai. So you’re not having to then look through your calendar and go, oh, I’m available between this time and that time.
You can just send them a link. It’s all done automatically now. So we need to really be able to harness our zone of genius as a human, which is using our brain to make decisions to, to look at information, to be creative, to think clearly. Rather than just being a production line worker going through emails click.
It’s I love the term, and this is a good bridge into the book that you’ve got the cognitive athlete that’s that whole idea of what that is. I guess we don’t traditionally think of ourselves, particularly if you’re, a business owner as many of the people listening to the program would be, you don’t tend to think of yourself as an athlete in that way, but what you’re suggesting is there is a.
Cognitive athlete inside of us that we have to look after and so how have you found that term resonating with people? Because it’s certainly the first time that I’ve thought of it in that particular way. Yeah. The first thing I get is that I’m not an athlete. I don’t spend hours in the gym.
I’m like, you’re right. You don’t spend hours in the gym. However. You are an athlete of your mind, how much time do you actually use conditioning your mind and the researchers of some great research from Microsoft, the Human Factors Lab, in which they put EEEG skull caps on people to monitor brainwaves and they had back to back meetings and, by the third meeting, the stress levels were high.
When stress is high, you’re unable to think clearly because oh, I’m gonna get nerdy and neuroscience. But cortisol inhibits the, goes into your prefrontal cortex, which it, which inhibits your thinking. You get brain fog, you’re unable to think clearly. Your, you got weaker control of your thoughts or emotions.
And that just increases the more meetings we have back to back and what they did, they had that study. They had one group. That. And then they had another group have five minute breaks in between meetings and it was massive stark difference night and day between, decision making outcomes and clarity of thought, and also just being calm and un under control.
We need to. Think of ourselves as athletes of the mind. We may not move like athletes, but we’re using our brain like an athlete, and we need to be able to train our brain for us to peak at the right time. So in, let’s say a difficult conversation or a pitch or even a podcast, we’ve done the pre-work.
So then we’re able to perform and we’re able to take questions, we’re able to think clearly. We’re able to be able. To relay information and communicate and things like that. And I guarantee most people have, whether it’s a performance review or conversation, they’ve ended, they’ve gone in there prepared, but when the pointy end of the stick comes, they’ve forgotten what they’re talking about or they get sidetracked really easily.
So it is all around being really intentional with, how we set ourselves up for us to. To peak at the right times. Hence goes back to that question like let’s look at our year. When do we need to be on Foreman and on five for us to be able to get the result? And then we need to recover.
And a lot of the time when I talk about recover people, they see it as a weakness. But actually it’s, it’s such a positive. And nasa, did a study on nasa. I call them Nana Naps. Like a 26 minute nap, how that boosts cognitive performance. So we need to, that’s why I’m bringing all of this in to help people to be able to think clearly, to get better results.
And you’ll find that, you’ll be more productive with that as well. So rather than time, it’s looking at your energy. We’ve talked about a number of things and I’ve appreciated all of this, so thanks. Gimme a bit of a, so much. Yeah. Give me a bit of a rundown. If there’s a top three kind of ideas that you would recommend people take on board, what would they be, aside from number four being read the book and we’ll tell them about the book in a moment, but what would be the top, what would be the top three things that they should start thinking about?
Yeah, look I think that the first one is we need to, then, we need to look at our previous 12 months. To then inform off our next 12 months and look at it as a performance gap to go here’s my season, these are the most important times. And then what I can do is then schedule in holidays, whether it’s a week or whether it’s two weeks or whatever.
And then we can then look at that the sec. So that’s the first part. The second part, we need to then work out what our rhythm is, like what’s our circadian rhythm, and then we need to then third bit is then look at your calendar to go, what can I say no to? When am I in my peak focus area, I need to then block that in to do my project work or deep work.
And then the final part is learn to say no. And you can do that really simply by putting in do not disturb. We can, turn your notifications off out of office, off train people how you know how to solve their own problems. I think if we are always available then. We’re not getting our work done, which we’re being paid to do, right?
We’re running round with our heads and fire. And then as a result, if we’re not doing any of this when we are 70, 75, we’ve got these chronic health conditions brought on by long-term stress. I guarantee you people are not, looking at themselves going, man, I wish I said yes to more of those little meetings with no agendas.
I really miss those complete waste of my time. Or whether they said, man, I wish I actually booked in more intentional recovery breaks for me to sustain my performance over the long term. Definitely it definitely very great advice to be looking back on those kinds of things.
’cause you just can absolutely spot on. When you look over a year, how many wasted meetings we all have. How many times meetings have gone well over what they should have because we haven’t contained them. It’s really quite interesting when you say to someone, I have a hard out at this particular time.
And yeah, people tend to respect that because they’ll get to a point and they’ll start speeding up or they’ll say, look, can we book another time? And you can make that decision much more deliberately rather than just allowing things to continue to go on. So there’s lots of great. Advice here. So tell me a little bit about the book and what people have to look forward to with that.
Yeah, can I just add one? This is the, one of the best tips before we get on the book is you can go into Microsoft right on your calendar and outlook, and you can change the default setting for your meetings. So in the Dece the default set is 30 minute meeting box, right? Change it to 25. And then if they book an hour, change it to 50 or 55 minutes, that’s gonna give you a five minute buffer.
And then if you’re working in a team, then what you can say to your team is right, you are gonna be the timekeeper, you are gonna keep us on the agenda, you’re gonna be the note taker, and then we can then spread. Spread this word out to say, look, our time really matters. Again, there’s more research to say between 30 minutes and 45 minutes, you are getting no extra value outta that meeting.
So being very disciplined within that. But those are the hacks that you can do. So then when people go into calendar to try and book a 30 minute meeting, they’re like, oh, why is this 25 minutes? And they’ll send you an email. I can only book 25 minute meeting. And you say. That’s because I’m a cognitive athlete.
I need a five minute break in between my next meeting to go to the toilet, to have a drink, to have some food, for me to be, on a point when I’m at that meeting. And a lot of, yeah, I was just gonna say, and there’s a lot of software that people will be using, whether it’s through your CRM or various booking things that you might be using bits of software that also have that opportunity to add up.
Buffer on either side of the meeting. So even if you decide to have the meeting as a 30 minute meeting, you can actually put a five minute buffer so the next meeting can’t start at until five minutes after that. So you can have that break. So it is an important tip and whether you’re using Outlook or something else, and I’m pretty confident you can do it in Gmail as well.
Which is probably the other main hosting for emails. As I said, all the other software do allow you to create that, and it’s such a simple but easy tip to have. Yeah and look and I do come across quite passionate about this. Do I still struggle with that? It’s a daily work on for me, right?
So there are times where I get sidetracked, but I always come back to what’s the most important thing I need to get done today? And then I’ll come back to that. It’s a work in progress for everybody and it’s just been intentional behind how we spend our energy rather than the time factor.
So let’s bring it down to the book, because we are running out of time in this podcast particular, so we don’t we’ve kept people waiting for a little while. So tell me a little bit about the book and what people can expect. Yeah. Cool. So here it is. I’ve got a copy, Vance copy so that the book is all my experiences from.
Working in the military and working in high performance sport. And I’ve taken all of those concepts and I’ve got loads of stories in here, not just from my time, but some really good case studies. It’s all backed on really, validated research in neuroscience to look at ourselves like we mentioned as a cognitive athlete, someone who uses our mind to make decisions, to think clearly to look at information and dissect it.
So it’s really taken that lens of it and it goes through all the different phases of cognitive periodization, from conditioning phase to transition phase, performance, and then recovery. So we, I break it down in, into really bite-sized chunks and steps. And at the end of the book, it gives you a really robust, four step strategy for you to take away and to implement, not just individually, but also teams as well.
And I’ve, yeah, and it’s got loads of case studies in there from real clients that I’ve worked with over the past, 10 to 15 years to implement a lot of this information that that I’ve accumulated over time. Just in there. It’s, it’ll be available, it is available to pre-order now, but it’s in, it’s gonna be in the shops on the 29th of December.
Published through Wiley. So they’d be really good to, to get it out. It’s gonna be. In the airport. So a January must read if you are doing any traveling to just, really think about yourself in a different way. It’s not a productivity hack or a book about that. It’s about you and it’s about, spending time for you to look at your season, to work out what your peaks and troughs are for then.
You’d put a plan into place, so then you’re not looking when you’re 75, 80 back on your life going, man, all those meetings you’re looking back going, yeah, I’ve still got the energy, I’ve got the drive and the motivation for me to still be producing, whatever that looks like at 80. I’m not 80.
Yeah. But I do know, that the more that we look at. The way our brains function the clearer thinking that we’re gonna have and the better results that, that will naturally fall out of all of that. Amazing. And the, and correct me if I’m wrong, but there’s a scorecard as well, isn’t there, attached to the attached to the book that people can access now?
Yeah, absolutely. So if you go onto the website, cognitive athlete.com au, there is a scorecard. So right now you can go on there and you can find out, where you score, so you know whether you are at risk of burnout, whether you’re actually a cognitive athlete already and not knowing about it.
And it’ll give you a really good strategy for you. A couple of things to think about for you to then implement moving forward. It comes down to like things like sleep. It comes down to breaks, comes down to focus. Alcohol is another one. Exercise your diet and nutrition. All of these have a big impact in your score.
You are of all of those, and give you a result. And then you, yeah, give your report so you can take that away and have a think about it. There’s a link, to talk about if you wanna conversation with me about it. So it’s, there’s Elizabeth and there’s also the podcast as well that he dives into a lot more detail.
That’s in the book. So my first draft of the book was like 75,000 words and publisher said, no, it needs to be 50. So I’ve had to take a lot out. And that’s what, the podcast and the newsletter I’ve got on LinkedIn, on Wednesdays. It goes into a lot of the research and and things like that.
Fantastic. And we are going to make sure all of the information on how to get in touch with you and all those links are going to be in the show notes. Just one final question to wrap things up that I do like to ask all my guests. What is the aha moment that people have when they come to work with you that you wish more people knew they were going to have?
Yeah, that’s a great question. I think really it’s not a drastic change. People are already using some of these tools, resources, techniques but it’s really to look at, okay what’s one thing that I can do to boost my performance? And it’s different for everybody. So people are already doing good stuff, but now it’s being intentional.
And then when we start looking at people’s calendars that Oh yeah, emails, yeah, I should maybe push them out. ’cause there are other people’s jobs to do lists, right? A lot of the time they’re doing the right things, but it’s about. Really dialing down and then looking at what’s my recovery strategy?
And not many people have a recovery strategy. They don’t even factor that into their diaries. For me, that probably from all of this is around, that recovery. So what am I doing to recover? And it’s not going for a holiday. It could be I’m going out for a walk in between meetings, I’m listening to some music, I’m talking to a colleague.
And if you intentionally put that through the day. People end up, being happier at the end of the day. And then that has a flow on effect into their, family life, a outside of work. So it’s like schedule recoveries and you all yeah, you do well. I’m feeling much better after talking to you.
’cause now I feel like I’m, I can call myself an athlete, so that’s, yes I’ll live by that. So thank you so much for being a part of the program. It’s such a fascinating area and absolutely encouraging everyone to pre-order the book or if you’re listing and it’s. The book’s already out. Go and get the book.
It’s it’s gonna be a must read. So many great things that you’ve given us in that episode. So thank you so much for being part of the Biz Bites for Thought Leaders podcast. Hey, thank you Anthony. And yeah, it’s been good to be on. Excellent. As we said to everyone, take a look at the show notes for more information and don’t forget to share and subscribe so you never miss an episode.
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Kevin Hubschmann
Laugh Dot Events
Corporate training, leadership development, and team engagement through comedy-based workshops and experiences
In this engaging episode of Biz Bites for Thought Leaders, Anthony Perl sits down with Kevin Hubschmann, entrepreneur, comedian, and founder of laugh.events. Kevin shares his remarkable journey from being one of the first 10 employees at Splash to building a global business that brings comedy skills to corporate teams.
Kevin reveals the critical distinction between comedy skills and comedy performance: training in improv isn’t about telling jokes, it’s about developing soft skills like active listening, empathetic communication, and adaptability. He introduces the “Yes, And” principle that transforms collaboration and explains why he calls improv training “the EQ gym” for business professionals.
The conversation explores Kevin’s pandemic pivot from in-person comedy shows in New York to virtual corporate training serving organizations globally. He shares powerful insights on creating psychological safety, the transformation from “apathetic” to “inspired” teams, and lessons learned from opening for comedian Jessica Kirson.
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Kevin Hutchman on improv training and building high performing teams. Welcome to another episode of Biz Bites for Thought Leaders. What if the key to Better business performances wasn’t another productivity hack, but learning to laugh together? My guest today, Kevin Hutchman, has discovered that training in improv comedy develops the exact soft skills that every business desperately needs.
This is a very fun episode, but it’s a very different way of looking at building culture, building teams, and really creating unbelievably successful way of breaking down boundaries and improving performance. You don’t want to miss this one. So let’s get into this episode of Biz Bites for Thought Leaders.
Welcome everyone to another episode of Biz Bites for Thought Leaders, and this is going to be a different kind of episode ’cause we legitimately are gonna have a bit of fun with this one. Kevin, welcome to the program. Thanks for having me. Excited to be here. So let’s kick things off as we do by allowing you to introduce yourself to everyone.
I am a entrepreneur, comedian keynote speaker. Team bond bonding, fun guy. And yeah, corporate facilitator that likes to work with companies to help them have comedy skills in their professional world. Yeah, there is a lot to cover in that alone. And I wanna point out to everyone listening in that what we’re gonna cover a fair amount today is, of course a about the role that some of this stuff can play in building teams and really building a sense of community and a sense of fun in your organization.
I wanna start things off, Kevin, that’s interesting about how you introduce yourself. So what do you see yourself as first? What is the first thing? Is it entrepreneur? Is it comedian? Is it, where do you sit? I’d say it’s probably entrepreneur. I think that entrepreneur allows me to. I, there’s a various amount of businesses that I do outside of the one we’re talking about.
I’ve always been interested in a unique path, but more just about solving unique problems. And so I’m really just drawn to different areas of industry whatever that might may be, and using my expertise that I’ve had over the years to, apply some solutions to those problems. I’m a problem solver, and if I haven’t said it enough, and I love I love being an entrepreneur, and so I try to apply that in whatever I do.
I love that it’s being an entrepreneur is such a a wonderful asset and a way of thinking to have, but I think you apply it in a different way, particularly with a comedy background. So I know you call yourself a comedy nerd, but where did the comedy stuff begin for you?
Yeah, so it really began at the dinner table. I am youngest of six kids. Always loved comedy. But I was introduced to comedy from all my brothers and sisters. We used to watch Saturday Night Live. Ever weekly when I was a kid, like real young all the way up until, currently watch it.
So I’ve been exposed to all different types of genres of comedy my old life. And I didn’t really take a big leap until I moved to New York City after college and started at a company called Splash where I was one of the first 10 employees. But simultaneously, while I was there, I started training in improv comedy.
And me and my two brothers and my best friend, we started a group called The Brothers in Flaws, and we would do three hours of comedy training of improv comedy a week, and it was just the most fun ever. We just would laugh our butts off constantly and we thought, I thought it ended there, but it wasn’t until I would go into work the next day.
Fresh outta college. Not a lot of professional skills, but what I did have were these new skills I was learning in the comedy world. So I was able to apply those to work. And, you know what I call them comedy skills. I’m not talking about being able to make a joke, but I’m talking about active listening and empathetic communication and collaboration and creating psychological safety taking risks, going off script.
There was just these crazy lists. Of skills that I were protruding from me and I was able to communicate better with my team, collaborate better, which you absolutely need when you’re on a small, scrappy squad. I was able to reel in clients better. I was able to talk to customers and prospects, learn about their problems, prescribe custom solutions, go off script.
And I truly believe that it wa, if it wasn’t for immersing myself in the low stakes environment of improv, I wouldn’t have been so successful early on in my career because I was able to use those skills while I got, it got the chops of the business world under my belt. So I really attribute learning those skills in comedy as a way to really jumpstart my career.
I think it’s a fascinating way of bringing those things in because yes, immediately you think, okay, you can’t, there’s only so far that you can have jokes in the workplace because things have to get serious at some point in time. But you’re right there that, that safety that is created, but also I find fascinating with improv is that everything always has to be a yes, right?
You can’t say no to things, and that is a skill within itself, particularly in the business world. How do you actually say yes to things? How do you actually make it work? Yeah. And I think that understanding what the yes is not, I’m gonna be now doing the thing that you’ve told me to do. And it’s more about accepting the current circumstance that you’re in.
And adapting. So the phrase is yes, and rather than just Yes. So the yes is more of a validation. The yes is a validation of, Hey, I’m accepting your idea that you’re throwing my way. And yes, that is great. And you’re validating the person that’s giving it to you, whether it’s on the stage or in the boardroom, and you’re validating that individual.
Then you’re adding and to it, right? You’re saying, and here’s how I feel, whether it can be positive or combat, not combative, but contrary. And, the whole idea is that it’s the validation that you’re giving people with the Yes. And it’s the acceptance of what they’re saying with the Yes.
And it’s then bridging what the words that you’re going to do the, and is really for the individual. So is the yes as well, but it allows you to say, Hey, how can I just be very collaborative in this effort and eliminate words like, no, but or because those are words that can really stop the train. And that’s all about what applied improv is about.
And improv performing in general, but it’s about saying yes to the experience and the situation that you’re in and playing the next play off the top of your intelligence. Not coming up with a canned response or a, or something that you were gonna say. And, you wish you said it earlier, so now you’re saying it now.
It’s really about living in the moment of being present, and that is the best thing that you can do. To create a laughing moment is allowing people to create rapport and build rapport. Because that is, it’s not even if you go and back to someone and you try to explain why you laugh today, they’re probably not going to understand it.
’cause it’s not like some joke, but it was a situation that you were in and that’s what happens on the improv stage. If you go and tell someone why you laugh so hard at an improv event, people are gonna be like, that’s not funny. And you’re like it was ’cause I was there. And we’re in the moment and in the zone.
But that’s because we’ve created the psychological safety where it’s like, Hey we’re in a silly fun area, now we can laugh. Or we’ve created vulnerability now we can trust each other to laugh with one another. So it’s really about listening, communicating, building that trust and vulnerability so that people can effectively communicate.
I’m a big fan of watching shows like, whose Line is it Anyway, where? All about improv and for anyone who hasn’t seen it, I recommend you do watch it. It’s interesting what you’re saying there because they definitely create that sense of safety because clearly they’re given things that they don’t know what it’s going to be, but there’s so much trust in each other that they know.
That it’ll go somewhere that will work for both of the people that might be appearing on there at any given time, or it could be three or four, whatever it is that appears on the stage. And I think there’s a lot of valuable lessons to learn in business there. I think we, you’re not necessarily suggesting everyone in business goes and learns how to do improv, but it’s a good way of demonstrating it.
I’d say that is exactly what I’m hoping people will do because improv is something that is an incredibly accessible art form. You don’t need to go into it with any sort of knowledge. That’s what our business primarily helps people train in, improv and train. We call it laughing and development.
And it’s this workshop, series of workshops in person or virtual. The virtual ones are actually. Amazing because everyone has to be so focused and dialed on their squares. You’re al already dialed into like your environment and looking at other people and they, the whole goal of this is that we should be training in improv, and it’s called Applied Improv.
I’m not saying people need to go and perform improv. That’s a completely, totally different beast. And if you’re gonna perform and invite your friends, you better be good. ’cause you’ll give improv a bad name if you stink. The, but the, but training in improv and training in comedy is totally different than going out there and performing in front of a huge group of people.
While that also can have its benefits, I’m not saying everyone needs to do that, but I do think everyone can benefit from. Getting into the EQ gym, so to speak, working on their soft skills like listening and communication and adaptability, and what are those different ways that we can do that. And improv offers a wonderful environment for people to feel safe enough to make mistakes and really be silly and show up as your most authentic self.
Then when it’s time for a business situation or professional setting or any sort of like even serious high stakes situation, you can tap into that muscle that you’ve been training and your performance might not be in a comedy setting. Your performance is going to be in the real world where these skills are going to benefit you and you’re not gonna receive a laugh.
You might receive. A sale, you might receive trust, you might receive a new friend, whatever that might be. And so that’s why I truly believe that, training in these comedy skills is not to make you the next Jerry Seinfeld, but it’s to make you the best version of yourself so that you can always bring yourself into a place to connect with others.
Yeah. I wanna pick you up on a couple of things that you’ve said there that I think so important. Yes, you’ve said the listening, and I think that’s incredibly important, but it’s really about, to me, that ability to adapt. Is incredibly important. That I think is often overlooked, but we do it in business every single day.
No matter what business you’re in, you don’t know what is going to walk through the door or come through in an email or in a call, in a, in the next, five minutes and it can throw you for a loop. Sometimes it’s not always exactly the same as whatever happened previously. So we have to adapt and we have to learn how to utilize those skills.
And I think then the second point about that is, is then developing trust as a result of that. I think that is where the important skills lie, particularly for business. Absolutely. Those are, that’s the foundation of any sort of business relationship, whether it’s internal or external. And and people find their own ways to do it.
And I think that, again, communication, trust. All of those different components I’ve talked about are a really great way to build that foundation with your organization. So tell me a little bit before we get into what it actually looks like for people now. How did it happen? How did the progress happen to get to where you are now in terms of offering, offering comedy and improv and these ideas to the business world?
So we started out I’ll take you all the way back, but we did I started this business in 2019, just as a way for me to get more stage time. And, I, after I did my improv journey I kept training in improv after our group broke up. And we went and I just went and did more improv training and then eventually I got into the standup comedy scene, started hitting more open mics, doing some clubs in New York.
And then, we had the opportunity to throw an event at my office that I worked at, and we had this awesome stage and lighting and the just sound system was perfect and. I also had one of my best friends at work played the drums and could work the lights and the sound and, suddenly we were our own Jimmy Fallon and the Roots situation.
And we went and started throwing what I would consider at that time, the best comedy show in New York City on a Wednesday at 7:00 PM and it was electric. The comedians that we had on this show were some of the best, not just in the, in New York City, but in the whole. Country. And I’d say since we first did those first 10 shows, there have to be at least 10 people that have done Netflix specials.
It was that kind of talent that were on our shows and I was incredibly grateful for those experiences because one, I got to perform alongside mega huge stars and that was so cool. But I also got to. See how they prepared, what they were like before they got on stage, what they were like after. Then I would be, some of them I’d be able to pick their brains like, Hey, what is, what was it like to prepare?
How do you learn from certain situations? So I’d bug a lot of them and be like, just, I wanna get into your psyche about what it’s like to perform at such a high level. So this was like one of the first times I was able to really. Work with comedians at this level, both producing and hosting and performing in these shows, but, performing alongside of them.
And that was a really cool experience. And then, about 10 shows in, I was like, let’s, no, let me do this full time. So I was, I’ll leaving my company doing this full time and then the pandemic hit and I was like, what have I done? This is a horrible mistake and. We got really, it was a blessing in disguise and we went into corporate comedy and we said, how can we put these comedians that I’ve been working with over these last 10 shows in New York, and how do we put them to work?
Because all those comedians were actually out of work because of the pandemic, and they weren’t legally allowed to even perform in comedy clubs. Doing virtual comedy was a good outlet for folks. And I had the opportunity to give some comedians corporate gigs. And so I started to get into that corporate scene and see what it was like for people to how they were at work.
And, COVID was a Hal. Its own thing, but people were so not pumped to be at work or be at this event, or like their day was like just absolutely killing them. It was the first time I was actually able to see. How our comedy shows were impacting people during the workday. And it wasn’t just like great show in our post-event surveys.
It was, thank you so much, I really needed that. I’ve had a horrible week or a month or something’s going on in my life and this was the best outlet. It was these like incredibly impassioned things. And since it was COVID, people were like, I haven’t bonded with my teammates like that since we were back in person.
I also, I started to see. This was making people less depressed. It was bringing people more social bonding. It was, people suddenly leaving their jobs. Men mentally for a second and showing that they could have fun in the same environment, AKA, the zoom link that they were having some of their most boring and mundane and probably brutal experiences.
It was a very good, immersion therapy, I’m sure as well, to be like, oh, this is a really good experience. So that was the first moment where I was like. Comedy at work works, and I really want to keep going down this. How else can we serve these organizations, especially as we go back in person, but more importantly as people stop to think about how do we meaningfully spend our budgets on team building or professional development?
Because there was a shift and said, Hey, we gotta tighten the coffers and we can’t really just be doing. Cocktail making classes and, comedy shows were thrown into that mix too. So we started, that’s when we first developed laughing and development. And I brought, I went back to my time starting comedy and starting my professional career.
And I realized that was the key. That was the key to really unlocking folks, is taking them pretty much through my journey that I did myself, because I saw firsthand the impact that. Training in improv could have if I applied it to the workplace. So that is really when our business took off. And we were able to, have real meaningful impact.
That was another thing. Although the comedy shows are awesome, we still do they’re a huge part of our business. We still do a lot. There’s a time and a place for a comedy show. There’s a time and a play and that’s a celebration. It’s having a lot of fun. And, but when it comes to every quarter, every month or offsites or moments where we need to really dial in and figure out people’s why that we’re able to come in and have real meaningful impact, that helps companies, through us tell their message to their employees about.
This is an environment where we value collaboration and we want to communicate more effectively and we wanna listen to one another and we wanna go to war with each other at work, and we wanna support one another. So that really was, added a whole extra meaning to what we were doing. First it was in the world of let’s just get people to laugh more, have fun and brighten up their day.
And then it turned into, okay, how do we help people really start effectively? Communicating and using these skills at work to make each other smile at the very least, hopefully it leads to a laugh. So are you going in with businesses and talking to them in advance so you understand what the messages are that they maybe want to give over so that is worked into whatever it is you are delivering for them?
Oh yeah, absolutely. It’s a very prescriptive solution that we’re offering, whether it is a. Entertainment comedy show on the virtual. We do virtual comedy shows that are so specific and tailored that we have attendees completing pre-event surveys to tell us office buzzwords to incorporate or memes to incorporate.
But then on the other side of things with professional development, we will ask the event organizer to tell us. What do you want out of this event? And there are so many different exercises and games that we can incorporate into our sessions. So we wanna know exactly like I have them rank a list of 12 outcomes from one to 12, which they think is the best, outcome for their group.
And a lot of the times people are like, they’re like, they’ll write in a note. I couldn’t, I wish I could. Put all of these at number one. That’s how like pe, how much people resonate with the material. But we then try to take like the average of the six and say, let’s create a theme connected with what their purpose of it.
We asked them, why are you doing this event? Or what challenges. Is your company seeing, we have a recent one that we’re working with now. It’s hey, we are a new sales team. We’re coming people that have, one style of selling with, a transactional style of selling and we need to bring them together as a group.
And, and then we also need to have people be more comfortable creating relationships with clients. So we wanna help build that rapport. And it’s stuff like that where we then say, okay, we have a series of games and exercises that we think are going to lead you in this right direction, so that in the OutCo outcomes of all of this, people are going to feel like they can take these skills and apply them to their, to the next day at work.
And that’s where you are using things more like the improv and those kinds of ideas, rather than it necessarily being a comedian. ’cause I imagine the comedian’s gonna be a little bit harder to adapt to some of those things, but I gather that’s still part of it as well, potentially. Yeah, but not really.
We’re all business when, it’s silly and it’s fun, don’t get me wrong. Like laughing and development is, it’s in the name there. It’s a lot of laughing. People are going to have a lot of fun, but it’s not gonna be from a comedian telling jokes, like if you had hired us from an entertainment perspective, this is all.
Parentheses funny business and we are trying to, help your team accomplish your goals. And so these facilitators, I don’t call them necessarily comedians, even though they are all comedians, but they’re facilitating a session with the group. And that’s different than the entertainment side of our business that we offer.
It’s a completely separate thing where, we are one side. We’re trying to create a great comedy show that’s for this moment. Then the other side of our business is we’re trying to create a really great team building and professional development experience that will have people really learning or even bringing out some of their skills that they may have had dormant.
What a great business to have both sides of the things that you can, do the straight out entertainment side and you can do this stuff that, that really gets into the that’s the best. Yeah. The man of business. I’m interested though, ’cause you talked about. This coming out of the COVID period and o obviously operating in a virtual environment, which I know you do.
And for those that are in Australia and watching or listening to the podcast at the moment, there is opportunities to do some of this stuff in a virtual environment. And I think we talked about before, could be coming soon in a real world environment as well. But talk to me about the virtual environment because.
It’s a lot harder to get responses, right? Comedy doesn’t play as well when you’ve got one person delivering something and you’ve got these other people that may or may not have microphones open, but you’re not feeding off one another in the same way as you are in a sitting down in a live audience.
So how does that play out in not just comedy, but in the improv and other things you’re doing? So just in the higher arching of everything, you’d be surprised in that virtual, in a non-corporate setting. You’re right. It doesn’t, I don’t think it works very well. It’s like a bunch of strangers.
I remember being at that in the beginning of the pandemic and we started to this idea of doing like that was got what got very popular public. Virtual comedy shows and see had 200, 300 people in, you had to mute some people were listening on their phones, like it was just like a complete disaster.
And so I remember going, we’re doing this, but not that. And what I mean by that is. The public nature of it. Now, when it becomes corporate, your company is sponsoring your event and your company is asking you to attend this event, and your company is asking you not just to attend the event, but you’re attending as a member of the organization.
So there is this built in sense of I have to be, I’m at work, I’m getting paid to be here. So there is this sense of I need to focus and dial in and I was very surprised at it. But the, just the nature of a corporate virtual event has a like, like bouncer feel to it.
Like that, like you’re, the company is the bouncer being like, you gotta, you better pay attention. And so much so that we don’t even have to we, I’ve never kicked anybody out, ever. And we’ve done so many things of of events that people are being like rowdy or not good. Or not paying attention whenever it might be.
I’ve had other people that, like the companies have kicked out because like they’re so dialed into it. So that’s just one kind of misconception that comedy can’t be done virtually. I think the setting is so incredibly important. And we also, on the virtual comedy side of things, and I’ll get into the improv side of things, but on the virtual comedy side of things, we started to say, okay.
First we started with just standup, and then we realized what’s another way that we could bring people to always be focused on what’s going on. So we went from standup to what I said before was, let’s have the content be about the people in the room. So let’s do pre-event surveys with the attendees and get information.
We said, all right, maybe let’s layer in images on top of screens when comedians are doing shows, like it’s a late night format. So creating another virtual element of it or visual element of it. We also started to get into musical improv where, or we have comedians that will create songs about your company live on the spot from ideas that they have in front of you.
It is actually amazing when the audience is dialed in and everyone’s on their mics and everyone’s on their cameras or as many people that can be, it is as fun as it can get on virtual. Obviously nothing beats in person, but it is as fun as it gets, and you’d be very surprised at how fun it can be.
Now when it comes to improv, it’s the same thing. People, we recently did an event where there was actually one of the women, that was, had to catch a flight. And so she was actually like going through, she was in a cab and then she was going through security and then I think she had to, when she got on the plane, she had to turn her phone off, but like this was a moment where you see.
We put people into breakout rooms, like we do warmup events where we get people assimilated, create that psychological safety. Then we’ll do two person activities. So we’ll put them into a breakout room and then we’ll do five person activities, put them into a breakout room. The beauty of the virtual side of things is that we can.
When we’re trying to do team building and professional development, we can leverage the technology that virtual softwares have, like breakout rooms to make sure that people are getting that, high level engagement from one another. And then on the entertainment side, we don’t use any breakout rooms and we’re just like, bring the laughter in.
Let’s just have a good time. So it really is dependent on it, but we found ways to be. The leader in our category as it relates to doing any sort of comedy experience online improv. The improv let’s, to make it work. It’s, and it’s amazing how you’ve adapted the business and found ways to make it work and made it probably larger than it would’ve been ’cause you would’ve otherwise been looking at very localized offices and operating perhaps just in New York.
And now you can operate globally. It’s the coolest thing. There is the first, I’d say 2021 was the first year where it was like, whoa. Maybe even early 2020 or like at the end of 2020, but it was 2021 where we had like at one point 13 events in one day and it was. So also not only like the volume was crazy because the demand was so high because of the pandemic.
We were doing so many events that it was starting at 9:00 AM my time and ending at 9:00 PM. My time. And so it was this full, like using Eastern time zone to, or, sorry, not eastern time zone, but like we do a show on that in the European time zones. Then us time zones, then APAC time zones.
And it was this very we had companies that were hiring us for like, all three of their holiday parties and they would just have different time zone areas. So it’s just very cool. We’ve performed on nearly every continent. Which I never thought I’d be able to say. VIR obviously virtually.
And, we get to reach so many different audience members and that’s what’s cool about performing for remote audiences and remote workforces. And do you get much opportunity to perform or you it’s just stuck in the entrepreneur space. I’m a host of a lot of these events, so I get to get the crowd going, that’s my natural position is the host.
And so anytime I have a chance to put myself into the event, I usually do. And but it’s very fun to be in that host space, get the crowd engaged, make sure people are, on the virtual side of things, have their cameras on, mics on, do some crowd work, practice what I preach a lot of the, of what I’m doing.
And so the performing is always very fun, we always like to. The people that we’re bringing in are just the best at what they do. And so we really respect that and these companies are paying good money for great talent. And, we wanna make sure that we’re delivering the best show possible.
So there are moments where I gotta step out of the limelight and let the real craftsman take over. Tell me, you’ve done a lot of shows for the business. Have you collected the data? Do you know where the main problem areas are that businesses are highlighting and where you are seeing a result after what you’ve been doing?
I think the best way to answer that question, and I think ’cause we went through a bit of a, we’ve been through a bit of a wave in terms of what our offering was and it was virtual entertainment to in-person. Laughing and development. So there’s been like a very large wave. And so in the beginning, people had bad cultures, frankly, they weren’t transitioning well in the COVID space and they didn’t know how to connect with people.
And they were really open to trying new things. They just wanted people to have more fun. Now I would say I’m able to dial in so much more. I love being on the. Professional development and team building side of things because I’m really able to now ask questions about what is wrong with your organization that you think you need to do a laughing and development experience.
And what I mean by what is wrong, it’s more what do you think that you can improve? Not like I can’t believe that you’ve come to us but it’s like, what do you think? You can very be very honest and I would say the biggest thing is. AI has lowered our EQs a bit across the board, and that can either be veterans in the professional world or it can be people that never started a job or you had to go in person five days a week or go out to meet with a client over lunch or whatever, or pitch in person.
I think that’s really the biggest trend that I’m noticing is that a lot of people are still, assimilating into this new normal because we all went through an experience where virtual was normalized. And I think that people got some of their muscles atrophied on the EQ side of things.
And so people are, organizations are really looking to get that mojo back and what we’re able to provide is, I like to it’s like a gym, we’re able to help with those muscles and, the people that work with us best are the, are not the ones that do this one time. It’s the people that do intermittent sessions with us that can allow for people to, really work.
Better with each other and work better with their clients. And it’s because they’re working on these skills. I think that’s an important point for people to hear from you as well, is that this is not about a one-off kind of gig. It can be, but I assume, but ultimately you want people coming back and continuing to work and obviously seeing a level of improvement that happens in that.
So are you seeing a lot of that and do you, are you able to track it? It’s the organization. It’s, it all depends on what the organization allows us to track, obviously. But the ones that continue to do more events with us. We do not have to reset and start at zero. If we are doing an event with an organization, we can pick up into 1 0 2, 1 0 3, eventually get them up to 2 0 1, 2 0 2 0 2.
So I think that’s the best thing is you what, when I was training in improv, I didn’t see the value the first day after. At work the first day after I left or went into work after doing improv, it was until like probably a month or so in where I had done it so many times that it was now a part of me and it was a, it was now a muscle and a skillset that I had grown and developed.
And I think it was when I started to combine both of the two, I was more conscious of it and said, oh, this is like improv and listening and communicating and going off script, adapting, all that stuff that I’m now conscious of. But it took my subconscious a while in reps to do I think that, that is what people can really benefit from is seeing that and my goal is that there’s gonna be.
A sales team that comes through and wants to do a case study with us. That’s very clear. I’ve seen case studies done with organizations like Salesforce, where I saw that they had a I think a 20% increase in, in sales conversions when they trained their sales reps in, in improv. And that’s a case study that I’ve pulled from the internet and.
Those are the things that are so fascinating, but you also have to have people that are in in it with you to want to grow and have the same people and the same studies and go from there. But the good news is I don’t need to prove this to anybody. These, this is in medical journals, it’s in case studies.
I’m just picking up where a lot of people have already done the hard work. And how much resistance do you get from people, because obviously there are people that are going to be embrace it straight away for whatever reason. And you would have, I imagine, people who are more outgoing and then you have the people that are more insular in their approach and maybe a little bit reticent if you, when you start doing some of these exercises.
So how do you bridge that gap? Yeah, I would say. The first five minutes are a lot different than the last five minutes. And that’s basically everybody comes in with preconceived notions, whether it’s improv or not improv. That’s also, we don’t call it improv ’cause that’s a scary word for a lot of people.
We call it laughing and development. And so I think that is, no matter what, you gotta shake those cobwebs off. And so I think that the. The important thing is like how do you create psychological safety in the beginning of the event to be like, Hey, we’re gonna have some fun. And so whether that’s an entertainment event that we’re doing or an IMP or a laughing and development improv event that we’re doing, you need to spend those first five minutes of.
Doing really easy warmups with folks and icebreakers with folks so they get familiar and create that psychological safety so that you’re able to take them into the deep end and and everyone ha can have a lot of fun. How much baggage does the term laugh carry? Because I imagine and maybe you can tell us what it was like the first time you jumped on stage as a standup, because most people can’t really imagine what that’d be like.
But you stand on stage and the audience is sitting there going your job is to make me laugh, so go on, make me laugh. That’s hard. Yeah. I think that, that’s definitely the worst audience member that could be if that, that they’re coming with that attitude. But you’re right. No, that is the, that is what people pay for a show.
And I think that what I learned is that there are comedians that take that part very seriously. They go and they’re not just doing a throwaway show and throwaway event. They know people that have come out. They’ve paid money. They’ve gotten babysitters in some cases. Not for me, obviously I’m not in this category, but I think what I’ve noticed is that you try to take it with that same approach and mentality.
You try to prepare. And I think that’s a really. Good lesson that I learned from folks is really giving a crap, giving, really making this very important to you. And so that you not only prepare what you’re gonna say, but you’re very dialed in and focused and very present in what’s going on in the room.
And then the next thing is like reps, like it’s scary, but it’s only scary if it’s your first time or second time, third time, it’s, the scare the scare turns to nervousness and this, and the nervousness is different than the scare. Because the nervousness is because now you want it to go really well.
You know that nervousness is just meaning that you care about it. And so you can ask other comedians like, do you still feel nervous? Where you get on stage, people that are huge, and they’ll say yes. And that is coming from a place of I want it to go very well versus in the beginning. It’s scary because you’re not used to it.
You haven’t gone through the ups and downs or the bombs or the failures, and so you don’t know the worst that could happen. But most comics, they have to go through the worst before they can have really good sets, myself included. I have so many moments where I’ve bombed for five, 10 minutes straight.
It’s the worst feeling in the world. But that’s those are scars and calluses that I can leverage. Not just for future performances, but sort of anything that I’m getting into of being like, I know it can go bad, but also I’ve survived a lot of crappy awkward moments where my body is telling me they hate it.
At the end of the day you survive. And and it’s just another story that you can tell yourself that you’re resilient. Is it, tell me when you talk about laugh and development, is it that. It just puts a smile on people’s faces and brings the barriers down. Or does it carry some level of expectation in a similar way for people?
Do you find? I think that the laughing component is to let people know that this is going to be fun, and that is the mo most important aspect. We’re not calling it jokes, and development. And I think that’s a very clear distinction between jokes and laughter. People can laugh in a whole different number of ways, and the whole, the goal is that we are going to do these games and exercises, and I almost guarantee you are going to laugh out of the experience and you’re going to laugh probably within the first five minutes because we’re going to do something silly.
Enough that you are going to break down your barrier and you’re gonna make a mistake and you’re gonna laugh at the mistake and you’re going to laugh at others making mistakes, and suddenly nobody really cares. And you’ve broken down these barriers. So the laughing component of it is, it’s a result of what’s gonna happen and when and then the development part of it is also another result of what’s gonna happen.
And when you can combine laughing and development together. When you laugh, you and you associate a new skill with a moment of laughter, your brain remembers it better. So our goal is to always be combining the laughing with the development. And that’s why we named it that because applied Improv and applied standup has have so many opportunities for people to laugh and connect with one another, and then simultaneously learn something that they can take away and use in the future.
And we didn’t. Talk too much about it but the musical comedy side of things as well. So I’m open to having a musical comedy version of the, of this show. So whenever you’re ready, just just pluck out the guitar and get going. But no, I, in all seriousness, I wanted to ask you as well, you talked earlier on about learning from a lot of the comedians and things.
So tell me what are some of the biggest learnings that you’ve had? And if you wanna name drop a few people, go for it. But are there some particular things that you’ve learned that have then transferred across to this stuff that you’re doing in, in, in laugh and development, I can name a lot of comics that I’ve worked with and I could talk forever about this.
I’ll just focus on one. And someone I’ve worked very close with over the years, a comedian named Jessica Kirson. She’s, your favorite comics, favorite comic. She is amazing. She’s such a killer. And I had the pleasure of opening for her once. And, I was opening for her and I remember doing my set and it was whatever, my, my experience my I did the job I hosted, it was a fun time.
But when I saw Jessica go up there, you open that door and it was the loudest laughs you’ve ever heard she’s killing for. And I only did 10 minutes, she’s doing 60 and she’s. Lighting the room on fire. She’s absolutely crushing. And I went up to her after and I was like, how do you kill every single time?
And I was like, that is what I heard in my room versus what it was like when you were up there. Those are two different sounds. How do I get to where you are? And she said, Kevin, I’ve been doing this for over 30 years. And that was it. It was, that was the answer. It was like, I have been in it, I’ve been in the trenches.
You’ve been doing this, for seven years or whatever the number was at the time. You, we don’t compare and experience, and it was one of these like aha moments where it’s especially in comedy, but throughout all of our, professional experience. We wanna cut the line and we wanna, get to that goal faster.
And the older that we get, the more we realize how important those years of struggling are to our final story and how hard we could kill it in the professional world. And so I think that was one of my let me zoom out for a second and realize where I am. And I’m on a, I’m on a journey, whether that’s in comedy or as an entrepreneur.
And, I’ve had a lot of lows during that time. But that is ultimately for, I’m investing in my ability to have really big successes in the near future and beyond. So that’s how I look at it. And that was probably my biggest skill I took away from a comedian. What I really enjoy about Jessica and I followed her for a while on in my feeds on social is that a lot of her stuff is bouncing off the audience.
She’s, it’s not it’s amazing. See, great comedians like a, like a Jerry Seinfeld and the like, and they have a pre-prepared routine. They do know how to respond to an audience jumping in as well, but a lot of her stuff is built around what is in front of her. That’s she’s a killer.
She’s, she is, she knows how to work a room. She’s very adaptable. She really embodies a lot of the stuff that we’re learning or teaching and laughing and development. She’s really good at improvising and she’s really good at working with what she’s got. She’s really good at her act and her material that she’s honed over the years.
She. She can, I’ve heard her do sets back to back to back. So I’ve heard like them do run consecutively and the breaths that she takes are conscious, like she is such a master at her craft. And not only does she work with what she’s got to. Bring the audience back in. She’s doing that to bring them in so that she can really knock them out with a tried and true joke that she knows is kills in any environment.
So she’s constantly rope a doping, the, her audience members and no one kills harder than her. And she’s and it’s because she’s got, it’s she’s like out of a helicopter, like shooting like two giant guns. You know what I mean? So she’s just but it’s she’s awesome.
And she’s amazing at what she does, and she’s a good friend. Two quick things to wrap things up. One is, are there some top tips that you can give businesses from the things that you’re doing and that you’ve picked up to open their minds as to what you can do with this sort of stuff that you are doing?
My lesson to businesses always, whether they work with us or not, is find a way to improve your team’s active listening skills, which will then help them more empathetically communicate, which then will allow them to be more vulnerable and that will allow people to trust one another. And those steps are very important and that’s what we aim for in all the workshops that we do.
Is with that ultimate goal of kind of building people up in that mentality and that can pay the dividends for internal team collaboration. It can be external with clients and prospects, and it’s really investing in your team’s emotional quotient. And that’s, it has to, I’m not saying don’t do other types of trainings and professional development.
It’s allowing people to be very well-rounded. But don’t forget that these emotional skills are invaluable and could arguably be the X factor in helping your team reach its full potential. So one final question. I love those tips by the way, and thank you for that. The final question that I have, and I always like to ask all my guests this question, what’s the aha moment that businesses have when they come to work with you that you wish more people knew they were gonna have in advance?
The aha moment is that is a lot more fun than I thought it would ever be. That’s the, we do a survey before the event and after the event, and almost always the, before we ask people to say one word or a phrase, and the phrase always before is tired. Don’t wanna do this apathetic, just neutral or negative.
And the words that they end with are. Enlightened ex inspired, energetic, open to new experiences. It’s just completely opposite of what they had going into it, the experience they had. So that’s I show that to people to say it doesn’t matter. This is a work event.
People in general are just gonna feel negative about a work event. But here’s what people feel afterwards, and it’s always gonna be opposite and exciting. And so we try to really help people understand that everyone just gets into it and we build our programs to make sure that the first five minutes is, are way different than the last five.
Thank you so much for all of those insights and we’re going to remind everyone that we’ll put lots of details in the show notes of how to get in touch with you, but it’s Laugh Events is the website address where you can find lots and lots of information about how to work with you. Kevin, thank you so much for being a part of the program.
Thoroughly enjoyed the conversation. Yeah, thanks for having me. All right, everyone pay attention to the show notes so you can get in touch with Kevin and we look forward to your company next time. Don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode. We’ll see you next time on Biz Bites for Thought Leaders.
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Ross Swan
Effective Self Leadership
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In this compelling episode of Biz Bites for Thought Leaders, Anthony Perl sits down with Ross Swan, an executive coach with over 25 years of experience transforming leaders across Asia. Ross shares his remarkable journey from 30 years in financial services to becoming a pioneer in executive coaching, spending most of his career in Singapore.
Ross reveals the critical shift that changed his coaching approach: moving from traditional executive coaching to focusing on self-leadership and inspired leadership. He shares powerful stories of breakthrough moments with executives, including a memorable example of how connecting leaders to their heartstrings creates lasting behavioural change.
The conversation explores the hidden costs of poor leadership, the challenge of getting executives to recognise they’re the problem, and practical strategies for helping leaders let go and empower their teams. Ross emphasises that great leadership starts from within, driven by personal belief and purpose.
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Self-leadership and transforming executive performance with Ross One as our guest today. So what if I told you that poor leadership doesn’t just affect workplace performance? It ripples through people’s entire lives affecting their families, their confidence and their wellbeing. So my guest, Ross Swan, has spent 25 years coaching executives across Australia and Asia, and he’s been seen firsthand, I should say, how transforming one leader can transform hundreds of lives.
After decades in financial services, Ross made the courageous decision to pursue his passion for coaching. Eventually relocating to Singapore, where he became a pioneer executive coach. His approach a little bit different, instead of focusing on management techniques. Ross helps executives lead from within emphasizing self-leadership and inspired leadership.
In this episode, he shares a very powerful story about an executive who publicly berates a team member, and then the one simple question that changed everything. He also explores why executives who need coaching most are often the blindest to it, and how to create those breakthrough moments. That transform leadership behavior.
You don’t wanna miss this episode with Ross Swan. This is Biz Bites for Thought Leaders. Let’s get into it.
Hello everyone and welcome to another episode of Biz Bites for Thought Leaders. I have one such thought leader with me today. We’ve got to know each other a little bit over a period of time ’cause he’s been a regular attendee at a forum that I run on a monthly basis. So if anyone wants in on that, you better just reach out and I’ll tell you more.
But right now I’d like to introduce Ross Swan. Welcome to the program. Thanks. No, we like chat. We like to start off by letting you introduce yourself. So why don’t you fill everyone in on the little bit of the backstory. Oh, the do the short version. To on my gray hair, if you’re looking at that, I’ve, it could be a long version, but I’ll stick to the short one.
Look based, I’ve had probably 30 years in financial services, then another 25 years in coaching executives. Most of that time was in Singapore and it was an interesting journey leaving. Australia and all my contacts within the industry of financial services and then going to I don’t know be a pioneer in coaching because there wasn’t that much around to turn the century.
So coaching with the coaching executives over that time and instead it evolved with people the way they lead people. It’s given me a lot of I guess a lot of thought process to move to where I am now, so I’m probably being slower than not quicker. In essence, my original coaching led me per more sole inspired leadership.
In other words, self-leadership, and that’s what I’m about now, helping people to be better self leaders. And that’s, that comes from within you, your own belief, your own purpose. And that’s what I now do is help people become better versions of themselves. To use that cliche, there’s a lot that I wanna explore around that because I think it is an important area and I’m gonna ask the listeners to bear with us a bit here because I, I think that what’s important in order to get to that point where we can start talking.
About how important that is and ways to address that. I think it is important to understand your backstory a little bit because you’ve downplayed it, moved to Singapore, then you’ve moved back, right? So tell me about that time and then your, first of all, financial services and then deciding to make a leave.
With financial services, where you wanted to go originally, and then how do you make that leap to then jump to Singapore? Yeah, that’s a good question, Anthony. I’m writing a book and I actually cover some of those aspects. It’s interesting when you grow up in your high school, you, there’s pressure on you to decide what you wanna be, what you wanna do.
I had absolutely no idea, but, so I floated through school. I just passed things. Primary school, I’d be way up on top of the class. But whenever I got study in high school, I fell right back because I had no vision of what I wanted to do. And in hindsight, coaching and helping people, if I’d said that when I was 15, people think I was strange.
Yeah. So anyway, it evolved. I fell into financial services, joined the local national banking town. I said, I can’t nimble. That’s how I went to financial first and upstate manager of the insurance company, both in South Australia and back home in Queensland. So I got to level and then I thought, I dunno where this for me, I actually, we did some training on whole grain thinking, right?
And we the facilitator looking at. What part of the brain he is. We did this and I’m a senior executive of there and all the other senior people, it ended up, they were sitting on one side of the room and I was the other side by myself maybe. Maybe on the certain to be working with actuaries or whatever.
I dunno, man. Look. Anyway, I can start. It got me to start thinking. But in essence my, my manager who always me and be true to yourself. And I started seeing because I helped him, I fell into catching, ’cause I helped him different, he had different hotspots around Australia he’d send me to sort out the issue.
’cause I just naturally do it. I can help people and motivate people, find out what’s wrong. So in Congress do that. But one thing I learned, just how much core leadership, how much, much it just affects people’s lives. Like you you’re work all day or a poor leader, everyone has a toxic environment, then they go home.
It’s like I go home and kick the cat and do it. Yeah, it just flows out. That’s when I started. I’d like to do coach. I’d love to help some of these people because the more I help them, the better lives. Everyone under there, out their sort of control. Control has better lives. And that’s how I started.
That’s a big leap to make, to be working, in somewhat of security of a financial services company in a decent position to then say, I’m going to be a coach in a completely different way. ’cause it’s not like you were doing the same thing that you were doing in the financial services company.
So that’s a significant decision, is that, how hard was that decision at the time? It would, we bit to make and then. The, my, my boss was retiring and I just saw this as a catalyst. The go rather than be the only one in the room now. So I thought, no, now’s the time will go. So it it happened that way and I think that’s what the universe does that to you gives you beat up the backside at times and, oh, now I’m out by myself.
And I did that for a couple years. I was not starving, but I wasn’t far from it because a lot of people saw me as financial services executive. And they, so that’s why I went to Ville. I was gonna say, people have a great way. Pigeonholing you. I do. And it’s it’s always a strange thing to me because particularly in this day and age now you hope that it happens less because there’s so much fluidity in the way that people move around.
But I know personally that I worked for a number of years as the communications manager for the largest funeral company in Australia, and I went to a recruitment company at the time and said. I’ve done this for a while. I wanna do something different. And they said, ah, okay, we’ll look for a job for you in the funeral industry.
Nice. See? And I went there’s literally one at the time, there is literally one job for a communications manager in the funeral industry in Australia, and I’ve had it for seven years. So do you think we could take me outta that box and put me somewhere else? I didn’t and didn’t end up getting the next job through the recruitment company.
Yeah. And soon enough led to me setting up my own business, but yeah. Yeah. Talk to me though about why Singapore, how did that happen for you? I thought I, I needed to probably get some education or some sort of, ’cause given Asia, I could see that’s where the growth is, but I just need a bit of education that sort of hint towards coaching.
So I went and did a masters in performance management at a UK university. Which is something my boss working and with him for time, he encouraged that and helped me with that. So I started that, started coaching, but when I went and so part of my dissertation for that, with some research I did in Hong Kong in Singapore, and when I was there, I thought, geez, this is probably where I could probably land.
No one knows mes, so I’m not gonna be pigeonhole. And that’s where the growth is for the region. Australia is on the edge of the region of the Asia Pacific region thing. Pause in the middle of it. So that’s when I went and I had my wish. I had wish no one knew me, but unfortunately no one knew me. I’m knocking on doors.
Naomi, who are you and what are you doing? Reason we. Yeah what sporting team de cope.
It was umbrella and that forms a lot of the, what I talk about that I’m writing about now, that quite a few people, Naomi, keep encourag me to do because it’s that belief yourself and what you want to do. Only thing that keeps you going. If you listen to your head, I would’ve Pat come back here go working for insurance company or bank again.
What? But I just have to go. It is just, and I, for 20 years, feast and F, you’d get a good project. Ironically, most of the good ones I had were back in Australia. US driven client, contractor, right? But in essence, it’s that belief. You just gotta, it’s that belief that I wanted to help people be better leaders, that all the people under their influence have better lives.
That was what kept driving me. That was my essential purpose. I think it’s so important to, to get this story because. To me there are a number of coaches that are out there. Not, there’s a small percentage, let’s just say that I think have been career coaches, and whilst there’s nothing wrong with that, it’s, I think it, it, to me it lands a lot more when.
Someone is coaching their particular area and you can see that they’ve had the experience in that area. And so what they’re bringing out is the experiences that they’ve had and offering it to other people and how to navigate that is a lot stronger one. So talk to me then, what has. Provoke the move back after 20 years.
And you’ve obviously established yourself, you’ve established, you’ve gone from not being known to obviously being known and having a network over there. So what makes you pack up your bags and move back to Australia? It’s a couple of reasons. The first one, see, I do, I was doing a lot of subcontracting work at this firm in the US and I do get a lot of work in age specific.
And I was certainly not in financial services. I probably coached 50% of the lease would be engineers working for construction companies, oil and gas, the goes on. But COVID hit, so a lot of that work disappeared. I was working on a project in Bangkok at the time. Come home for the weekend, never left.
So we, we completed that online, that job, but it, now they data wound it all down because r and gas and they were bleeding at the time before that. But then it was hard to enroll out of that. It’s interesting. So one of the reasons was that I was struggling to get momentum again, this is the feast in the family, right?
And like anything, when you challenged Challenge void, you learn a lot of life yourself. So I thought I had challenges leading up to that. But post COVID, it just seemed to happen more and more to calm up and down, and I was at the same time. Grandchildren in Australia which I’ve been divorced for quite a few years now, and I have another partner think of the right.
But my grandchildren are getting, are now getting older, asking once you come and watch me play cricket, granddad, or football or something. So I’m missing that. So I thought, no, I can go. So I was thinking about coming back and then. I was about to Stu 2024 with a full book of engagements looking to be all year thinking this could be the breakout here.
This can be, I’ve never had a hole yet and within a month every went to zero. Just about off. And my, a good friend crying who was. Me probably about 18 months of work CEO of the company. And I, and these are jobs I’d have three days a month or four days. A month. A month, whatever I sent out.
He even had to tell me, and I won’t go into the reasons, but they weren’t reasons you could make up. Yep. They’re all legit. And I told him the other one, he said, you can, he said. You cannot make that stuff up. And instead even what I’m telling you now, it’s a up, it’s things. It’s that happened, but very rarely.
So that all went within a month from the hero to zero. And I thought that’s the universe saying, Ross, go Australia because, so that’s where I come back. And I’ve just taken a bit of time to, yeah, spend a bit time with family and now I cranking up and I want to talk about that story because people like coach, the ones who keep coming and want to keep coming back, are the ones who connect with that desire and belief.
They have their sense of purpose as a leader, and so they keep coming back to more. More chat, more conversation convers. So that’s why they’re one saying one song and that’s happening in the background and we know that. And we look forward to talking about it when it’s when it’s done as well.
But, so let’s turn a little bit to the shift that you are making in terms of the style of coaching that you are doing. Moving away a little bit from the executive style coaching, which in itself, this is a question that I wanted to ask you, and particularly whether this is, you’re gonna see this in the shift that you’ve made.
There is a lot of this executive coaching idea. There’s and I find it fascinating that business owners and CEOs. And maybe some upper executive management. In larger companies, coaching is the norm. People get coaches. It is accepted thing that you should do. It is now. Yes. Yep. Personally I’ve had a co, I’ve had coaches for an, for a number of years that what’s interesting to me is.
Is there a lack of coaching that is happening at lower levels? Are people, is this being reserved just because you’re going to be, you’re a CEO or a business owner, you’re aiming to get that way. Is there a lack of coaching that happens at lower levels and particularly as you are seeing, moving from these executive coaching to more the more around self-belief and those kinds of ideas which have, everyone can benefit from.
Is there a gap there? Is there, there is a gap? I think the gap is probably getting a bit shorter. But certainly there’s still a gap. Like I’m not brought in to coach somewhat middle to lower management, but I’ve coached a lot. But that’s because I’m there coaching their boss. And he or she asked me, can you have a little chapter?
And I coach him because I sit in many leadership meetings with Tom coaching, a lot of walk arounds planned up, seeing behavioral challenges from everyone. So I’d end up doing, but it is more likely added hours to the bosses. Then having a separate account from John Smith or something. Mary Smith. Because they wouldn’t get through which budget. So they just, they’d worked out that way, which is rather unfortunate, by the way. I think that I think a lot of larger businesses miss the mark that if they can offer coaching. Opportunities to people who aren’t even in management positions or they might be in lower management positions, but that’s where the opportunity lies.
’cause if you can get so much more out of people when you pay attention to those people and steer them in the right direction, I definitely, looking back on it now, we spoke earlier about when I was communication manager in the funeral industry. I, I would massively have benefited from a.
Coach at the time, I was making a lot of stuff up as I went along the way and I think they would think, and I think I, think that I did a pretty good job at the time. It was a great learning curve, but I think there would’ve also other directions I could have gone and benefited if I’d have had that, coach alongside of me now not blaming the company. It was a, it was quite a few years ago, by the way. That’s it. It wasn’t as prevalent as it is today. Yeah, it is. Yeah. So talk to me about this shift that you’ve made from the sort of executive style coaching into more personal development.
What’s brought the passion out in that? ’cause it’s a little bit come out in your story, but what’s the passion for that? And where is this going? Where are the opportunities here? Actually come to be successful coaching executive is to start with their themselves and to lead themselves.
And where the most success was to when they can, when the light bulb will go on. Oh. So it’s me, so it’s me not everyone else. Yeah. It is you now let’s look at you and get that right and then let’s work on, on, on everyone and how you connect with everyone and so forth. So that’s where all went to.
So it was interesting, like when I started coaching, if I’d mention to someone that you should lead from within, so being so inspired, listen to you in yourself, guy. No mate, not me. What, how do I do with this evil? But that, over time, that changed and and that’s in about 2015. I started a business call, so as my lose, but I wouldn’t have, I wouldn’t have started that name earlier on.
It’s quite an interesting area when you start getting into this because. I guess the first question is how difficult to sell. Is it from the point of view that, do people have to recognize that they need this, personal development or. Because it’s a very, I was gonna say, because there’s a big difference between you coming on as a, as an executive coach, where people understand that need, okay, I wanna navigate, and do better in business.
And so they’re thinking more in terms of the business. Yeah. And then you turn it around and you go, okay, you need some help in this area. And that’s okay to make that transition when you’ve got a relationship with someone and you say, Hey, we’ve been working on this, but actually you need a bit of this.
To come out and start saying from the beginning saying, Hey, I’m here doing personal development. How many people are putting up their hands and saying, yeah, that’s me. I need this. I guess I’m not probably saying that so much. I’ll give an example of a personal coach, an engineer and a team of about a hundred in a quite a large company, and they asked me to case him.
There’s some challenges with the way he is, he dealt with people and et cetera, et cetera. Anyway, it’s, there’s a graveyard of coaches before me. Fuck. You don’t go there and say you need to leave from within. They’ve gotta take them there. You’ve gotta take them to within. We had an episode where he berated one of his staff, a lovely guy, about 28 years of age, and they have all desks in Pigpen type thing so everyone can see, and here everyone does.
So he comes out of his office, berates, this guy, I won’t go into it, but it’s and wandered off back in his office. That, that, that word came to me and my next chat I had with him asked him about it and he said he is gotta be, he’s gotta learn, he’s gotta be clear. So I thought I’d just do it out there.
That just makes him feel as though, be more motivated to, to do it. I’m telling him to do all, you, so I still go,
He’s a good fellow and everything. He’s very popular. He’s just had a baby. He’s got a 2-year-old son. So you yelled at him the other day. How do you think when he went home, and I can’t, I won’t mention the kid’s name, but I knew he knew the kid’s name. I said, so little Johnny comes up to his dads on his leg and say, how was your work day Daddy?
All small, little excited. How do you think he’s feeling? Why do you think he’s thinking himself at that moment? He, that it looked, it felt like about five hours, maybe about 10 seconds, and he said, yeah, I probably shouldn’t have done that, shouldn’t I? I probably shouldn’t yelled him like that. That’s taken him from his head when he thought it was clever to his heart when he thought, that’s not safe.
Clever. So you don’t say you’ve gotta go there, you just take people there. So whenever I want take people there, you start talking about things that’s close to their hearting and that then you try and kick them there and, so he went he apologized. Apologized, and he told everyone in a meeting how he shouldn’t have done that.
And he doesn’t wanna see anyone else do it. That’s huge. He’s still struggling. He still struggle, buddy. And I think this is the important thing to realize as well, that this is, it’s very much a journey. It’s not like going to the doctor. It is where, oh, I’ve got a, I’ve got a little bit of a cold grate here.
Take these Ill in two weeks and you’ll be better. It’s not quite the same as that. And, and it’s very easy to fall back into old habits. It’s it does, making these kinds of shifts is huge and it’s ongoing, but it’s being conscious of it. And it’s having someone such as yourself that you can confide in and say this is what happened this week.
And being called out for the things that maybe didn’t realize or being accountable for that in a different way, because that’s one of the hardest parts about. Leadership is having accountability. Plenty of people out there that’ll be listening to us now have got their own business. So there isn’t really any accountability as a business owner.
You’ve got team more than likely and you are trying to keep them in line, but who’s keeping you in line? That’s right. If it a thought coming in my head then you’re saying that Anthony a lot will say it, it’s my business. Or this is my team, right? So therefore I’m so on that guy as well.
If I sat down, worked out, I thought let’s look at it from the head perspective. And I looked and we worked out roughly what that costs him on the bottom line by that outbursts to that guy. Going about how to effect it, everyone else. They’re not working because all they’re doing feeling sorry for someone off, they lost half a day work for about 30 people because they were not working.
And if they were they making mistakes because they weren’t concentrating and the list goes on. So this is what business owners struggle. It, they, it’s their business, but they forget if you don’t stop and do these things well, you are paying people. To be only working at half the capacity or the key working 10% of capacity and your goes through the real frost because you are used to dealing with people working 56, 6% of, but they don’t get it.
They’ll put on two extra to cheat everything. Everything that you can. If they’re all you probably.
That’s, and you get a, the light bulb comes on. Others not so much. And it’s a difficult thing. So tell me, tell me a little bit about that. ‘Cause how do you get the light bulb to turn on for people? Does it have to be very personal? Do you have to listen to their stories and call them out on things and do it that way?
Or is there a way you can make people more aware from the outset? I think it’s everyone’s individual. Some you can read, I can read that they’re a bit open. So you can talk about those things more quickly. Others you work on and wait for cues where you can actually, ah, now’s the time. I think they’re, apron can listen to this, otherwise they’d have shut you down.
Yeah. It like, I had one lady. Singapore, it runs a very successful business, but she’s in the sixties and wanting to sell it. But see, because she’s got the business, she knows what everyone should be doing, and she’s got a hundred staff and she tells them he empowers them, but they know in reality, they go one step out of a small little box that.
I’ve been given to work in, they’ll get hammered. And I, when I told her at the beginning, I said, I’m happy to case you, but I said, the biggest challenge here is not your staff, it is you. Unless you are willing to open up and look at yourself. I don’t want the job. It’s a hiding to nothing. You’re paying me for a couple of months, you gonna say you work clear, see your off on your bike.
So I just didn’t take it. Years later, they’re still in the s still to trying to, no one wants to buy it. You now, once she leaves the skill’s not there. All the brains are gone. So they’re happy to pay, but a lot less than what she knows the business is worth when shit, she’s there working long hours, seven days a week.
Just, they don’t get it. It’s it’s a very difficult thing for people to let go. It is. That’s right. And how so let’s assume that she said yes and it’s a pity that she didn’t, how, you know and people in a similar situation. How do you coach that to get people to let go?
You just, every case, it’ll all depend on who they’re letting go. Work is work for the ones they. Probably respect the most. They’re more easily to let go and then work with them and discuss it with them. Get them to talk it out. What paranoia are they now feeling that they need to go in and poke their nose into what’s happening?
It’s just letting it stack bite lip ring and bear her. She’s getting over that and. Just helping them do that, helping with you. I think one of the, that’s the biggest experiences. I was gonna say, one of the biggest challenges I would imagine is that and I think every business owner has probably experienced this, is that you let go of something and it goes okay for a while, and then something happens and you’re forced to either pick up the tools and do it again.
Or, something goes wrong and it’s, that’s the point where it’s really hard to maintain that letting go and not going back into those old habits. Yes, I agree. And it depends on, on, on the situation and the person and discussing if something goes wrong here, sorry something goes wrong, what will it cost you?
What’s the worst case scenario? And sometimes it’s very little or sometimes it’s a lot. Then we have to put some parameters in. But it’s just how you talk to that person. You like, you might say, oh, look I’ll let look I feel confident in you answer to be doing this just because I know it’s a, it’s you’re eager and you’re keen to get this going.
I want you to learn. I wanna help you with my expertise, so I’ll check in on you. I’ll give you a call once every, whatever it’s gonna be, right? Yeah. And you get there, you get their permission. Look, you gotta do things to to ease that along. So he is not, you’re not going a let ’em have it and I’ll just be in the dark.
You are helping them tell you, and I might say, so Anthony, now that I’ve got this, I’ve got this task. You said you how you intend to t and you. And you ask questions. And you ask questions and then they give answers. You answers. That’s a good idea. Good idea. This just a thought, you’ve gotta work. You’ve get a garbage.
How serious.
So Ross, this whole idea of, recognizing when you need help, recognizing that it’s gonna be about you. These are really difficult areas. What can we suggest to people who are out there? Listen at the moment, who maybe they haven’t had a coach. Maybe they have had a coach in the past, but they haven’t really considered that the problem is them.
What do you say to those people? Let’s do some serious reflection. Reflection and listen to me cues and messages that sort of surround you. But the challenge, Anthony, when there is a listen in needed, the people are most blind to it. And it’s interesting that some people do need it, but suddenly something happens and they start to.
Change a little bit, make something happens in their life, they start to reflect more or whatever. Soon as that comes there, that’s the time to act, because something’s telling you that you need to be doing this, that, and that’s coming from, that’s your intuition saying, I, you need to be doing this. And, but a lot of people for bit until it gets louder and later.
But the key is if you get a little feeling, I should then reach out to someone, reach out to me, anyone, and just test, test the water. Test the water.
Then you start to realize what it is. It’s not me telling them what to do. It’s me helping all.
I think it’s a really challenging area. That you’re in, because I can see that there’s so much that you can give people. But getting them in the first place and getting people to put up their hand is always going to be the challenge. But once people are working with you.
What are the sort of the processes that you need to work through and is it a, is this a many year journey? Is it, once you start in, you’re saying really this is something we’re gonna have to continue to work with and work on four years to come or is this something where you can go we’ll be able to shift this in the next whatever period of time?
I guess depends what the challenge is. That could be a specific challenge to someone, or if it’s just an overall, I wanna be better at being me, type, sort of scenario. So it just depends on the person then? Depends. One person. It could take one month, three months, one, three months. Could be couple years.
I’ve coached pretty senior executives for a good few years before we, there’s nothing more you can do. You’re right. And some of them have come back occasionally, just a can. You have a chap. Chap, but generally there’s no set. Set. Depends on the person and situation. The context are. There’s some core areas that you would encourage people to start doing some self assessment with to see whether they’re in need of some extra support.
I, I, there’s some things that people can reflect on and do quite specifically to say, if I spend a bit of time on this, it’ll reveal whether I need something
probably right. You could the people who need something don’t usually go and fill anything in, and if they do, they only look for the, what’s the positive side of it. I’m not saying that’s everyone, but a lot of per, a lot of the personality tests I never really like doing because it puts people in a box, for example, right?
So I won’t go into a male one, one put in, put ’em in a box of being are task leader. This person, it was like a badge of honor. I’m a task leader. Beautiful. It’s, but I am stuck. Hey, you’d need to be task focused, but you also to, it’s not just one or the other. So I do it like, it’s like a mor a strength traits and we, strength and challenges traits, and just picks up your traits, ups when you have a really strong strength every trait has a yin and a yang, there’s an opposite trait. It’s it’s like I’m blunt or I’m diplomatic. Opposites in the way they communicate, the way they communicate, the keys can be a bit more balanced than you do it. And so that’s the to I get people to look at and I tell ’em, is any red mark, mark, you probably need to have a chat.
Most times they go, yeah, that’s me. So I’m more to get a chat to start the Little Bowl. I know we’ve gotta wrap things up in a moment or two, but there is just one other area that you’ve touched on a few times in here. So it’s one thing when you’re being, you’re working on yourself as a leader and it’s the impact that it has on the culture of the business.
And I know this is an area that you are passionate about as well. So talk to me about. Where we are going wrong in cultures? What people, what were the signs that people are missing? ’cause it comes from the top, doesn’t it? It does it, it has to be driven that way. It has to be driven that way.
It’s culture is just the way people behave at work. It’s what they’re do and say, work and cultures are driven by the leader, but by the consequences. The consequences of people’s actions. That’s what drives them. So if you do something well and you get encouraged, encouraged and pat it on the back in, in a way, you’ll do it again because you’re proactively doing it again.
But if you get bere embarrassed, like that example I was telling you, that doesn’t mean to say they run, do it again. They may not do that particular thing that particular. They’re so paranoid. They make a thousand other, HES, they don’t, they’re not, they don’t have any confidence. And so the consequences drive the culture and the more toxic it is, because those consequences, the harder and tougher, and it’s always around verbal or human.
Human sort of challenge. It’s yeah. Yeah. If you put your finger in a fan and it gets cho off, you’re smart enough to not to do it again, right? But you want people, if they do a good job, keep doing it. And the more they keep doing it, the less you have to, and you can get onto doing what you do, but they just don’t get.
So the more you spend time encouraging people to keep going, and if they make a mistake making mistake. It’s a debrief. It’s debrief. They don’t get Belgian for it. The military do it politically politic. They have a problem with their, whether they win or lose, they have a debrief. No one gets blamed.
Blame. They just debrief. Debrief. Did that go wrong long? Yeah, that’s. It’s very simple. And it’s, and it is a lesson that many don’t learn. I’m very grateful for the fact that I had a boss many years ago that said to me, pretty much, look, we are human. We are gonna make mistakes. How you respond to the mistakes is everything, including if you make a mistake, come in, own up to it, and by the time you leave the office, I’ll have forgotten about.
There won’t be a blame game for that. It’ll just be, we’ll deal with it in there and then you’ll walk away and we’ll get on with the next things. And he was very true to his word on that. In fact, we are still very much in contact. I think it partly as a result of that, and it’s been a long time.
Been longer than both of us care to remember. And it’s, it’s a wonderful thing to learn that very early on and to give people that security as well as saying, Hey, if you make a mistake and you make it once it’s fine, but own up to it. Don’t try and cover up, but also work out how we’re gonna deal with it.
Because how you deal with it is everything. And I’ve certainly been. Privy to some stories where things have not been dealt with in a particular way. They’ve ended up in newspapers and courts as a result of it. Not something that I was involved with, but other companies and things that I was very aware of were going on.
And it’s you go, why would you do that? And people trying to cover up. And at the end of the day, all it was people trying to cover up the mistakes because they didn’t have the confidence to go and say, I made a mistake. And no matter how big that mistake is, it’s like owning up to it, learning from it, and moving forward.
But you’ve gotta create the atmosphere for that to happen. That’s right. And that’s the environment that const, that’s driven by the consequences. Consequences or how everyone behaves that if you’re saying, we got, we Little couple of, only a couple of seconds to wrap up. There’s one thing I ask people, and yet you gave the perfect example there.
See your bob if you remember the most was a good one. Yep. You forget all the up. Yeah, we had a few. I’ve had a few. That’s what I’m saying. One good one stands there like bloody. Yes. Yep. So I asked executives, I said, look, what do I want you to do for me? Write down how you want your staff to describe you as a leader.
And Right, and I’ve never had anyone ever ride down. I wanna be known as an absolute bastard.
A, it’s always nice you say down and say, what are you gotta do? 365 days, 24 hours a day in order for people to destroy me that way. And then it gets to people once they work, an hour one do it. And I, one had a checklist, looked every hour, every time she’s at work. All time. She turned her, the leadership around for being not very popular to being one of the most popular because she did exactly to what she had to do.
So they’d describe it that way. Being motivated to be better. Others talk about it, don’t do it. But if you can do that breathing, it’s no different to starting. Write down how you want your. Partner described you, your wife, asked wife, what are you gonna do them to describe me that way? Belong. Now you gotta do it.
Put you on notice to do the, that you need to do to be that your utopian over can be true. Like that good lady pad. He did the right things. He did the right things. Hence you’re still in contact with him and you always have bring a smiley face. Yeah. Hear his name right? Absolutely.
Absolutely. Which reminds me, I’m supposed to catch up with him, so I better send that note out to him. Before too long. Just to wrap things up, I have a question that I like to ask all of my guests who come onto the program. What’s the aha moment that people have when they come to work with you that you wish more people knew they were going to have?
It’s when. Oh yeah. I guess the light bulb comes on. It’s like that example I gave you ago when he said to me, yeah, I probably shouldn’t have said that. Probably shouldn’t have said so that point, yes, that’s a breakthrough. I’ve had a lot of those type of moments. That’s when you think, yeah, that’s workers.
I hadn’t worked with him, he’d still be yelling, abusing people, and everyone’s life is hell right there. I think that is a wonderful way to end it. Really fascinating discussion, A great journey that you’ve been on, and some really insightful comments I think about how people can recognize that they’re the problem.
I need to start working on it. Thank you so much for being part of the program, Ross. Thanks for the conversation, Nancy Conversation. Alright, and to everyone listening in, of course, we will give you all the details on how to get in touch with Ross in the show notes. We look forward to your company next time on Biz Bites for thought leaders.
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Trust is your leadership superpower. Dr. Darryl Stickel reveals the three core pillars that build unbreakable teams. Welcome to another powerful episode of Biz Bites for Thought Leaders. Today we are diving deep into the currency that makes or breaks every business relationship trust. Joining us is Dr.
Darryl Stickel, who is the founder of Trust Unlimited, the author of the groundbreaking book. Building trust, exceptional leadership in an uncertain world. And he’s also the host of the Imperfect Cafe podcast. He spent decades helping leaders from Fortune 500 companies right through to smaller businesses, build unshakeable trust in the most hostile business environments.
In the next 50 minutes, you are going to discover why 95% of leaders overestimate their trustworthiness, how vulnerability actually strengthens your authority, and the three core pillars that underpin trust in any relationship. Plus, we’ll explore practical levers you can pull to close the gap between how trusted you think you are.
And how trusted you actually are. This is an amazing episode play. Please pay special attention to the way Darrell introduces himself as well. We’ll reveal more as the episode goes on. A lot of value from this one for every single person in business.
Hello everyone and welcome to another episode of Biz Bites for Thought Leaders, and today we are going to have, I know a very interesting discussion about trust. How do we build it? Where does it come from? What are the implications of it? So many things to unpack in this short word. That people hear all the time in business, but what does it really mean?
We have I would say one of the foremost experts in the world on this topic. Darryl Stickel joining us. Darryl, welcome to the program.
Thank you so much for having me. It’s a pleasure to be with you and with our listeners.
And I know you’re a podcaster as well, but I’m gonna get you to introduce yourself to the audience so everyone understands a little bit more about who you are and what you’re about.
Sure. So I grew up in Northern Canada. In a small community, and it was isolated, harsh. Winters minus 40 was not unusual. And so people had to rely on each other. And so I got a sense that if I could be helpful, I should, and growing up there you developed a strong sense of community. When I was 17, I was playing hockey and I got attacked by a fan with a club shattered my helmet, knocked me unconscious.
I apparently stopped breathing three times on the way to the hospital. Wow. And when I was growing up I had a. Retinal disorder, hereditary retinal disorder. I knew I was gonna eventually lose my sight, that I’d become legally blind. My intent had been to think for a living, and now all of a sudden, here I am, I can’t think I’ve got the attention span of a fruit fly.
And so there was this long stretch of helplessness and hopelessness, and what it provoked in me was a really strong sense of empathy. And it took me a couple of years to really recover. But what I did. Strange things started happening. So I would be sitting on a bus and a complete stranger would come up and sit next to me and say, I’m really having a hard time.
And people would open up to me quickly. And I wanted to understand why that was happening and it felt like maybe I was destined for a life working as a clinical counselor. So I started working with street kids and families in crisis and troubled teens and working on crisis lines. To further hone those skills and gain a better understanding of what was going on for me.
And I, I came this close to becoming a clinical psychologist and I realized that, it would, it had taken these people a long time to get where they were. It was gonna take a long time for them to find their way out of it, and then it would drive me crazy. And so I transitioned. It ended up in public administration doing a master’s degree in public admin, working in native land claims in British Columbia.
And they would ask me these deep philosophical questions like, what is self-government? Or What will the province look like 50 years after claims are settled? The last question they asked me was, how do we convince a group of people we’ve shafted for over a hundred years? They should trust us. And man, that just seemed like such a good question.
And it gets to the heart of these long-term disputes, why they’re so resilient, even when they’re not doing anyone any good anymore. So I went to Duke and wrote my doctoral thesis on building trust in hostile environments. And I had two incredible academics on my committee who were both experts on trust.
And they sat me down after I finished and they said, when you first came to us. We had a conversation with each other. We said, it’s too big, too complicated. He’s never gonna solve it. We’ll give him six months and then he’ll come crawling back and that’ll be his thesis. We’ll let him just shave off a little piece of this.
They said six months in, you’re so far beyond us. We couldn’t help anymore. All we could do is sit and watch. Said here we’re a few years later, we think you’ve solved it.
So I left academia, went into consulting. I got hired by McKinsey Company, a big management consulting firm. Now all of a sudden, I’m getting a chance to apply these concepts that I’ve theorized about and they recognized, they said, wow, you got great client hands. Let’s send you to the worst places possible.
So places where there had been strikes or hostile takeovers, they would send me in to work with clients. And I’m getting a chance to apply these concepts and having success doing it, and then I get injured on the way to a client site. The car on me rear ends another vehicle. I end up with a really bad concussion again, and I can’t work 80 hours a week anymore.
And so I start my own little company called Trust Unlimited, and I start helping people better understand what trust is, how it works, and how to build it. And over the next 20 years, my learning curve is almost vertical. As I’m applying these concepts, formulating better ideas, learning how to help people understand the concepts better and how to prob problem solve with them.
So that’s brings us up to today.
That is quite a journey. Yeah. I love, I love that. You know what’s fascinating to me as I was sitting there listening to you and I asked the same question of everyone coming on the show to introduce themselves, and we get a variation of people that give me the 15 second version to what you did, to the more elaborate one and the interesting thing about what you’ve just.
Given us is a story, a journey of your life and where you’ve got to, and you can feel already, and I, it’s not a matter of what you feel because there’s a mixture of different things in there. There’s admiration, there’s empathy, there’s lots of different things that are going on. But immediately with that, what’s interesting to me is I feel like I wanna trust you already.
How much. Of building trust is emotional.
It’s a really big part. And man, that’s good insight because that was the core of my thesis. One of the things that really differentiated most of the 99% of the trust research treats people like they’re rational actors. And you’ve met people before, right? We’re not always rational and the more emotional we become, the less rational we are.
And so for me I developed a full fledge model for how the trust decision works and how we can actually take practical applied steps to build it. But in the heart of this whole thing is our emotional states, whether we like or dislike somebody else. ’cause if we like people, we have this positive story about them.
We want to find reasons to trust them. We’re more likely to trust them, we’re more likely to evaluate the outcomes we have with them positively, and that makes us like them even more. It creates these virtuous cycles.
It’s really fascinating to me that. The, we live in these two sides of our brain.
In fact, we probably live most of our time in our very rational side of the brain. Yet from a marketing perspective, we always say that 90% of decision making is is, is the emotional side and 10% is justifying the emotion. With that in mind is that. The key to the formula for trust is it really building that emotional connection first before you can start to rationalize it in some way?
For me it’s about resetting those emotional states if they’re negative, right? And we can start a positive cycle fairly easily by finding things that we like about the other person, having a positive narrative about them, a positive story. When it comes to my sons, I have a relentlessly positive story about them, which means that new information that comes to me, I interpret it through that lens, right?
And so when they were younger and they were in school and their teachers would say, yeah, he’s misbehaving. I would start to get curious, what’s provoking that? Because I’m not prepared to just blame him and say he’s dysfunctional. I’m more curious about what are the settings, what are the triggering events?
What’s the environment that you’ve created that’s bringing that out in him? Because I don’t see it. But I think for me, we just need to be aware that these negative emotions, if they’re really strong, are gonna trump any kind rational approach that we take to try to build trust with somebody else.
We need to at least be aware of them and try to reset those emotional states. First, if they exist.
It’s really intriguing when you talk about some of these areas, because we do have a lens that is. What our life is, right? The, our experiences and things that we’ve been through, right? It is going to impact our ability to trust someone we’ve just met, for example, right?
Because I’m gonna give you an example. I was brought up in a time when very few people had tattoos, okay? And so you were brought up with a lens that if they had tattoos, they were probably from the wrong side of the street. Now fast forward to Australia. Now I watch a lot of football. There’s barely a player that doesn’t have tattoos.
The whole it used to be that you couldn’t get a job if you had them. You had to cover them up all those sorts of things. And that’s completely changed. So it’s very interesting how things change, but it’s interesting. But I was very aware when that transition started happening in society, that became more common, became very aware that I had this lens.
That said, don’t trust these people. It wasn’t a rational one. It was just brought up on, people don’t have tattoos and therefore if they do, they must be this kind of person. And it’s interesting how those things not only, I became very self-aware of it, but also how it can change when you are aware how it can change the way you think and how indeed.
Those things change. I suppose one other obvious example is, it wasn’t that long ago that people would say, don’t trust anything where you have to buy it online. We, don’t trust putting your credit card down online. Now you would argue that it’s probably more trustworthy to do it in some online secure environments than it might be to do it in person.
So again. Things change. So how do you accommodate that and how important is being self-aware and noticing those changes that happen?
Wow. So you’re opening up all kinds of things for me here. And it’s gotta be because you’re from down under, because you’re taking me in reverse order. Through what I normally talk about context is I hope that’s a good
thing.
Make it more fun.
Yeah, absolutely. So you’re talking about context in some respects, which is the formal and informal rules of the game. And context is one of the other pieces that I added in my doctoral thesis because I needed a way to explain why we trust or mistrust some people without knowing anything about them.
And overwhelmingly the literature talks about trust from an individual perspective, but it ignores the elements of context. And a lot of times what I would do is, I would say to people, if you could be anywhere with anyone doing anything right now, how many of you would be sitting here listening to me speak?
And I had to stop doing that ’cause it wasn’t good for my self-esteem. But, because the question becomes, then why are you here? And they’re there because it’s their job or they’ve got something else on the go, or they’re traveling somewhere and they’re listening to the podcast context explains why we go into a doctor’s office and the doctor says, take off your clothes.
And we do. I’ve tried that. In other places it doesn’t work. And if we change the context, we could have the same two people with the exact same dialogue, but move them from a doctor’s office to a gas station restroom. And it goes from credible to creepy in a heartbeat.
Yep.
And so what you’re referring to is the fact that perceptions and values have changed over time.
Norms and expectations have changed over time. And you’re right, a lot of times we’re not even aware of our own context until we start to become thoughtful about it. And one of the exercises I got a of senior executives to do was. I sit down and I want you to think about how the CEO is constrained and each of the VPs is gonna write down how they think.
The CEO is constrained by the context. And then I want the CEO to do the same for the for, for themselves. And at the end, we started going through and having a conversation. What have you written down? What did, what were the takeaways for you? And. It provoked this really interesting conversation because they had different perspectives than the CEO did.
I’ve done the same thing with a captain on a naval vessel when I was doing some training with the military. We have very different understanding is how of how each of us is constrained and making that surfacing, that making people more aware of it is a great way to help reduce uncertainty because.
For me, trust is the willingness to make yourself vulnerable when you can’t completely predict how someone else is gonna behave. And that definition includes elements of vulnerability and uncertainty. And so in my model, it’s uncertainty times, vulnerability gives us a level of perceived risk, and we each have a threshold of risk that we can tolerate.
If we go beyond that threshold, we don’t trust. If we’re beneath it, then we do. So what that means is that if uncertainty is really high, then vulnerability has to be low to still fit beneath that threshold. And as our relationships get deeper, the uncertainty goes down and the range of vulnerability we can tolerate cts to grow.
And so if we want to build trust, it’s actually fairly simple. It’s where does uncertainty come from and how do we take steps to reduce it? And where does vulnerability come from and how do we take steps to help the other person manage it? And so uncertainty comes from us as individuals, and it comes from the context we’re embedded in, and the better able we are to describe or outline our context, the less uncertainty there is for somebody else, the easier it is for them to trust us.
Interesting. I, so with all of that in mind and I’m interested as to whether the introduction that you gave. Is part partly because of the formula that you have in mind, because you were quite vulnerable in what you gave over about the journey that you’ve had in your life Because it wasn’t a, it wasn’t a, you didn’t gimme a resume.
Put it that way. You gave me a story in which you were quite vulnerable about, having been on death door at one point. And other things that have happened to you throughout your life. Is that a deliberate strategy to build trust or is that just something that’s become a reaction that you know to everything that you’ve done?
So partly I try to live the model. I use it when I raise my sons. I use it when I teach. And I, until you just asked me that question, I hadn’t thought about the reason I tell the story, but part of, you’re right, part of what I do is I make myself vulnerable and that initiates a norm of reciprocity in others.
They feel like if Darryl’s willing to be vulnerable with me, that it’s okay for me to be vulnerable back. And partly I get a lot of practice. I’m legally blind and my guide dog, Drake, and I wander the world trying to make it a better place. I need help often. And I have realized that it doesn’t make me less than that.
That there is the potential for people to take advantage of me. Of my vision and the challenges I have, but I’ve been overwhelmed at how wonderful people are and how willing to help they are. And I’ve had really positive experiences with being vulnerable and it may be part of what makes people comfortable being vulnerable back to me.
It is interesting, isn’t it? Because you are, as you say, you are being forced to, particularly if you are, in a situation outside where you’ve got your D guide dog with you, it’s very obvious what your vulnerability is, right? And wearing that on your sleeve is a difficult thing, but you don’t have a choice and.
It’s interesting though that today people are generally speaking more and more guarded, aren’t they? Yeah. And I find this an interesting dilemma in business and I remember back even to the, I think to the very first episode of this podcast for those that wanna go back, we had a discussion with with Karen at the time and talking about this idea that.
Is outdated notion that it used to be when you rocked up to business that you had to leave your personal life outside the door, and that it was all focused on business until you walk back in. Nowadays that attitude seems to be that you, the recognition that you carry it with you. And particularly if people work from home, but yet the guards are very much up.
There’s, AI I think is making things more and more. Polished and putting more and more barriers up and trying to separate that. And so that, allowing that vulnerability, it’s becoming challenging. It is.
Yeah. And you’re bang on. So you, your instincts are so good around this stuff. You’re doing a magnificent job, by the way.
Thank you. When I think about, trust is at some of the lowest levels we’ve ever measured. If we think about it using the model I described before, our vulnerability certainly hasn’t gone down. We feel just as vulnerable as we used to, or maybe a little more but our uncertainty is bouncing all over the place, right?
We’ve seen pandemics, we’ve seen. Changes in norms and values. We see technological changes at an increasing pace. We see political instability and conflict around the world. These massive fluctuations and uncertainty make us incredibly uncomfortable, and so the ask, asking you to be just a little more vulnerable to me by trusting me is harder than it’s ever been.
And this is part of the, I’ve started working on a project called the Aspiring Men’s Program because the statistics for young men right now are horrific. They make up 80% of the suicide rate. They’re trending down in terms of educational outcomes, mental health outcomes, addiction. They’re really in a time of crisis and they are struggling to be vulnerable in a profound way.
They are the hardest group to reach because they don’t ask for help and they don’t send signals. They are reluctant to accept help. They isolate. And so you’re right, it’s becoming harder and harder for us to be. Vulnerable with one another because it feels like we’re raw and already over overexposed.
And it’s, we live in a society where there’s an expectation of performance and I know it’s actually interesting that around me in the last year 2, 3, 4, even. Reasonably close friends that have. Found themselves lost out of work. That they’ve lost their, they’ve lost their position and mostly it’s been through no fault of their own.
It’s a, restructuring situation, whatever’s happening in different businesses and things. And I was actually thinking about this the other day, that’s, that is so vulnerable to tell people about that because there’s an expectation that you’ll always be employed and you’ll always be aspiring at a high level and you’ll keep going up and up.
And that’s not always the case. And but even that for, I think particularly for men, is actually a it’s very, it’s very vulnerable because there’s an expectation, particularly not just around performance, but around, financial side of things,
right? Yeah. It’s a real challenge for men.
And when I was teaching in Luxembourg and one of my students, I think he was from Russia, he was definitely from Eastern Europe. He said, any man who makes himself vulnerable isn’t a real man. And so there’s this very strong mindset around you gotta be perfect. You can’t make mistakes. And you don’t ever admit that you’re struggling or need help.
And I challenged that idea, right? I said, look I’m teaching here. I’m making myself vulnerable all the time. I’m sharing stories about myself, imperfections about myself. Are you suggesting I’m not a real man? And he went, I said, ’cause we could go outside and have a f. Fairly serious discussion about that.
He was like no. I said, okay. Because I think it’s actually a sign of strength to be able to be vulnerable, to ask for help. And I was working with a group of senior executives and we were talking about benevolence, which is one of the levers we can pull, right? So from the individual perspective, we’ve talked about context, but from the individual perspective, there’s three levers.
I can pull to make you think I’m trustworthy. One is benevolence, which is the belief you have got your best interest at heart. Two is integrity. Do I follow through on my commitments and do my actions line up with my values? And three is ability. Do I have the confidence to do what I say I’m gonna do?
And so I’m getting them to tell stories about times when they’ve helped someone when they’ve been benevolent. And there’s six of them in the room. And they go around and they tell these powerful stories and they’re all smiling, and the mood is just buzzing, right? You can just feel the intensity. And I said, this is fantastic.
Now if you could just explain to me why you’re so effing selfish. And they go, what? What are you talking about? I said, even years later, you describe how powerful a moment it was for you to help somebody. To show up when they needed you. And you feel the positive energy that in this exact moment, but you never let anyone have that experience with you.
You never ask for help. You never admit you don’t know something. You never reach out.
Interesting. It’s I can immediately thinking of many situations where I think I’ve seen that. I think we all can. Yeah. And what fascinates me about vulnerability is that saying before that the walls are up so often, and I mentioned to you before we came on air and those listening to the program are very aware that my primary business is podcast done for you.
Great. And so podcasting is very much about, building trust with your audience and vulnerability is a key part of that. And it comes into telling stories because it’s a learning curve. It’s showing that you’ve learned. I think it’s one of the differences between a podcast and a webinar. Webinar is very much a, these are my learnings.
This is what you’ve gotta do come by from me. Whereas a podcast is. Get to know me, let me share some things, let me share some how I’ve gone on this journey and these different things along the way. And I think that’s what makes a truly great podcast is when that is open and you hear that all the time.
Whether it’s a celebrity based podcast where you’ve got actors telling about auditions and things that happen early on in their career, et cetera to. A business. I’ve a podcast I’ve got with a particular client that I’m thinking of and was talking about, his early days of teaching and how things went wrong, in a particular episode that he talked about.
And I think that sort of vulnerability is rarer than what you, than what people think that these barriers are up. And yet we want people to do business with us. We want them to trust us. How do you actually get that message through that vulnerability is so important. Yeah. And this is
part of the challenge.
My podcast is called The Imperfect Cafe. And it’s around leadership. And I agree with you. We’re trying to build trust with our audience so that we can engage with them so that we hopefully have impact. We have a positive impact on their lives. And. When I talk to people about pulling these levers, the ability lever tends to be our favorite lever.
And so we’ll say, I have these much, this much experience, these credentials, this position in the world. But if I really wanted to know what good look I’d actually include you in the conversation. And
yeah,
something I normally do is I’ll say, I wanna be the best guest you’ve ever had, or one of the best guests you’ve ever had.
How do I do that? And so if I asked you that you’d say you’d help my listeners be better off than they are today before they’ve listened to the podcast. You’d be. Engaging and genuine. And you think about my audience, not just yourself.
Absolutely. And so I’m trying to be the best I can be for your audience. And one of the interesting challenges that you face is you’re helping people with vastly different audiences. And so you should be having conversations. ’cause in a perfect world, you and I would actually talk to some of your listeners and say, what’s compelling for you?
How do I speak in a way that helps make your life better, that makes you want to listen to this podcast that makes it change your life in a positive way.
It’s, and it’s really interesting you say that and you. May not be able to see what is behind me. And there’s a sign that says and for those that are listening and not watching as well, it’s worthwhile pointing out. There’s a sign behind me that says, being the voice of brilliance. Brilliance is something that I talk very much about in, in podcast Done for You.
That’s what we are seeking to do, is to allow other people’s brilliance to be heard. It’s part of what we’re doing on this program is allowing our guest brilliance to be heard and brilliance can be mistaken for perfection. But it’s not right. Brilliance comes from stories and vulnerability as much as anything else.
And I think, if I certainly, in, in ticking the boxes for what makes a great guest for this program, there’s two probably critical elements and the one we most commonly talk about is giving those little one percenters that will make a difference to people listening that can act on things and improve their life, their business as a result of some ideas that have come across on the program.
But just giving those ideas on their own without context and story is useless because why would you trust that person? Why would you believe them? When you hear the story around it and you understand the thought and the processes that have gone into it, and the insights that have happened along the way, then the trust factor increases and the desire.
Therefore to enact on some of those things and potentially also then to want to engage directly with the guest increases.
Yeah,
I’m definitely hoping that people are going to tune in and listen to your podcast as well, and we’ll make sure we include some links to that in the in the show notes.
Yeah, that’d be brilliant. Part of my mission is to get the signal through the noise. Because, ’cause when I talk to real people and I show them the model, they go, this just feels obvious. It feels like common sense. Like how is, how’d you get a PhD? And when I talk to trust experts, they go, nobody else on the planet is talking about it this way.
This is so practical and applied. You’re talking about, I have 10 levers in my model. We all have the ability to build trust. Some are just better than others. Those who aren’t very good have a lever that they pull. Usually it’s the ability lever. Those who are better have multiple levers, and those who are really good have multiple levers and they know when to pull which one.
So you and I just role modeled the ability lever. Trying to pull that and having a discussion about what good looks like for you, what good looks like for your audience so they can have a conversation. Because a lot of times leaders, I’ll tell them benevolence, integrity and ability, and they’ll go, I do those things.
Yep.
And I’ll say, says who? Because if it’s me telling you I’ve got your best interest at heart, it doesn’t land nearly as well as you believing it.
Yep.
And for you to believe it, I have to include you in the conversation
And it’s so interesting with all of that because one of the things that I talk about. And again, this is not what this conversation tool will be about podcasting, but I think it’s an important thing point to make here is that the best podcasts are a conversation where the people that are listening feel like you are talking to them,
right?
And that is what the key is. Is that, I’ve worked in radio for a long time. I’ve built large audiences in radio and the key thing that I learned very early on in the piece was you don’t think about the thousands and hundreds of thousands of people that might be listening. It just has to be one person that is sitting there going, they’re talking to me.
And if that’s the case, then you are building, as you said, you’re building trust.
Yeah, and I try to role model the model, so I try to show benevolence, right? There’s nothing I’m holding back. There’s no, buy this for 10 easy lessons or here’s the secret. I’m telling you everything that comes to mind.
When I wrote the book, I wrote it so that if I go away, what I know doesn’t, and I. I’m trying to help your audience be better prepared to have conversations about trust than they were before they listened.
I find it fascinating when you read a lot of content that’s posted online, and particularly now with the advent of ai.
It’s tries to talk in some respects, to an emotion. You need this very rarely. Are there stories that are built into the component and very rarely are there vulnerable stories that are built into it.
And that’s where I think the difference is. It’s fascinating. Even when you look at some of the well-known entrepreneurs the.
The big people over the years that and pick any number of different ones from a, Richard Branson onwards. There is a degree of vulnerability with what they give over as well. And I think that we lose that because everyone’s striving for the perfection and forget that a perfection’s not achievable.
But b, that it’s. It’s the journey which entices people along the way. That’s what’s fascinating about speaking to those people.
Yeah, and every leader I talked to, I ask them, are you the same leader now? You were five years ago? And they all say, no. I’ve learned and grown and developed. And I’ll say, are you gonna be the same leader five years from now?
No I hope not. So that means you’re gonna let go of some of the things that got you here, some of the things you’re good at, and step into the things that would make you great as you evolve. And anytime you try something new, you make mistakes. And so how do we prepare the people around us for the fact that we’re gonna stumble?
And I tell ’em they should be thinking about having a conversation with those they lead and saying we’re all gonna be learning and adapting and evolving because the world’s moving too fast for us to stand still. And on that journey, we’re all gonna make mistakes, including me. I will stumble and I may fall.
When I do that, my expectation is that you’re gonna be standing beside me, helping me back up, helping me learn from that experience. ’cause that’s exactly what I’m gonna be doing for you. Sure.
It’s, that idea is so simple, but yet. It seems like a, there’s a, there are many brick walls in between it for the majority of people. Yeah. And I imagine that when you’ve gone into businesses small to large, that it’s those walls being up, which is usually the cause of the problem.
Yeah. It’s often the inability to accept responsibility for our own mistakes.
Or to tolerate the mistakes of others. I’ve heard so many senior leaders say, if I make one mistake, I’m done. And that can’t be true because we all make mistakes on a regular basis. And so what I try to convince leaders to do is to actually talk about the fact that. They haven’t been perfect the whole time they’ve been around, but they’ve made mistakes and when they were in other roles that there was a learning curve that was involved.
It helps humanize them because if we wander around with this mindset that I have to be perfect, it means we need everyone else to be perfect too. And that leads to micromanaging and squelching of innovation and adaptation. It means that people become incredibly cautious. And one of my favorite papers is by one of my advisors, SIM Kin, and it, the concept is the gains of small losses.
And in that paper he says that if your people are pushing to the limit of their abilities, they should be making mistakes. And if they aren’t, it’s a sign that they’re being cautious, too conservative.
It’s there are, when you talk about businesses at that level, it’s amazing to me how many times you have A-A-C-E-O that commissions some research and when the research comes back that says. They might be the problem, how quickly they quash that and move to other areas because they can’t possibly be the problem and they’re not allowed to be the problem because they’re the CEO or the business owner.
And it just, that’s not what, it’s just not what they’re looking for as the answer, right?
Yeah. Or resistance to getting that kind of information in the first place. Because I’ve been involved in situations where we’ve said we could measure trust levels. And senior executives are quick to say, you could do that for middle management, but not for us.
And this gets us to one of the challenges that we face. Trust has incredible value. We’ve seen that it leads to world breaking performance leads to incredible outcomes if it’s high enough. Within teams and organizations, it leads to higher returns to shareholders, higher retention rates, all these things.
Yet it’s at some of the lowest levels we’ve ever measured. The biggest gap we tend to find is between how much CEOs believe they’re trusted senior executives, and how much they actually are. And so there’s this delusion, 95% of us believe we’re more trustworthy than average, and that’s not just statistically impossible.
It’s problematic. Yeah. Because it means that if something came up between you and I, we would both think be thinking it’s the other person’s fault. Yep. It means we’re not able to resolve those conversations or challenges that we run into. And I talk to people about the locus of control challenge, an internal versus an external locus of control.
And for your listeners, an internal looks of control means you’re master of your own destiny. You make things happen in the world you’re an actor. External looks of control means you’re buffeted by the winds of fate. Things happen to you. Yep. And so when I used to teach undergrads, I’d say to them, I’d explain that and I’d say, who here has an internal of control?
And all the hands would go up stirring site, and I’d say, this is awesome. This means that if you fail the class or do poorly, it’s not because I didn’t teach it properly. The test was too hard. It’s all you baby. And they’d all go, oh, wait a minute. I said, that’s right. We tend to have an internal lo of control and we’re successful and an external locus of control when we fail.
And my sons were heavily involved in sports. They never lost a game where the ref didn’t suck. And this is one of the challenges we have with learning, right? Because what we should be doing is looking at those situations when we’re successful and saying, what role did the environment play? So that I can look for environments like that in the future to improve my chances of being successful.
And when we fail, we should be looking at our own behavior and saying, what are some of the things I could have done differently? How could I learn?
I, it’s a fascinating analogy. I think for what you’ve just described is actually sport and football in particular, and it doesn’t matter which kind of football code you follow, we’ve all heard this.
The team has lost, they blame the, there’s a, particularly the fans, I wouldn’t say necessarily the coaches, but the fans often blame the referee. Sometimes the coaches do as well. Yep. If this had have been ruled this way, then we would’ve won the game and. But I think actually the truly great coaches might question some decisions, but still say that there’s so much that we can take out of the game.
It wasn’t that one, two second moment where the ref blew the whistle. That actually changed the fate of the game because there were, there were x number of minutes of other times that things happened that the game could have been won. And that’s the difference isn’t it as well in business It is that you can focus on those little things, but it is actually going back to being more vulnerable and looking at what were the other things that went wrong.
It wasn’t just that moment.
And we can also see the forwards blame the defense for not getting the ball to them or everyone blaming the goalie. ’cause he only stopped 30 of the 35 shots that came at him. And we could see that happen within organizations, right? Where we blame it on sales or marketing or operations or distribution.
We create these us and them scenarios when it should be we, and we should be creating an environment where if there are problems we need to solve them.
I think it’s. So important to not only be vulnerable as we’ve talked about here, but also to be willing to give in a way that makes an impact.
Yeah.
I think that’s such an important thing that often businesses hold back say we’re the leader. I hate that. Determined because so many businesses say that we are the leader.
I don’t know how you justify that. Who’s actually given that particular honor ’cause I’ve never seen it in a particular space. Therefore, you must trust us and we will do stuff for you without actually giving anything over, right? Because if you can’t be a little bit impactful with what you deliver, and you’ve given plenty of insights today in this in this conversation of what things people can do and the impact that they can make, then you can’t possibly expect to build.
Trust as well. And it’s one of the things I like doing and I often do this in business as well, and we’ve had a person behind this on the program in the past. It’s a terrific organization called B one G one, and it’s very easy to show when you have. Interactions with people, how you can make an impact somewhere else in the world as well as a result of simply having a conversation.
And I and that’s a positive impact through a charity. And it can happen from a few cents to hundreds of dollars, whatever it, whatever you choose to do. And I think impact for business. Doesn’t have to be necessarily just about what you do. ’cause that can sometimes be difficult to pull off, right?
But you can make an impact in some way, shape, or form to build that level of trust.
And as a leader, I tend to think that one of the strongest levers we can pull is the benevolence lever, right? So benevolence integrity and ability are the three sort of individual levers, and that’s where most of the trust literature sits.
A ability is a moving target. What made a great leader 10 years ago is probably not the same thing that makes them great today. And integrity is getting harder and harder to maintain because norms and values are shifting and the world is moving so fast, it’s hard to make long-term commitments, but we can always have each other’s best interests at heart.
We can always try to look out for each other. And, there’s a number of ways we can do that. Again, I was teaching in Luxembourg. I was sitting with a group of students. I said to them, I said to one of them, tell me a relationship that matters to you. One, that’s important. He said, one girlfriend.
I said, great, and what matters to her? And he said, her family. I think her family’s the most important thing. I said, tonight, you’re gonna go home. You’re gonna have a conversation with your girlfriend. You’re gonna say in class today, the professor was asking us about a relationship that really mattered, and I thought about you.
That’s step one. You’re showing her that you’re thinking about her and that she matters to you. I said, and then you’re gonna say to her, he asked me what was most important to you? And I said, family. Is that right? Step two, you’re thinking about what matters to her, but you’re open to her input. You are open to being wrong if you didn’t get it right.
Said when she says, yes, my family’s really important to me, then you engage in step three, which is saying, because your family matters so much to you, I’m gonna assume that it matters to you that I get along well with them too. And so I’m gonna start spending more time trying to build a stronger relationship with your family.
I’m gonna have dinners with them. I’m gonna have conversations with them. I’m gonna share more parts of my life with them because it matters to you. And that’s showing her benevolence and being transparent about it. He showed up the next day in class with a huge grin on his face. He said, I’m allowed to talk to you whenever I want.
And it’s about being transparent when we’re trying to show benevolence to one another. And I’d like to give your audience a brief framework that they can use to try this out
place.
Say that you were listening to the Biz Bytes podcast. ’cause that’s good for all of us. And that you heard somebody talking about trust and they said benevolence was really important.
And really, that’s just a fancy word. That means having someone’s back or having their best interest at heart. And then you’re gonna say, I think I do that, but it doesn’t always seem to land that way. Have you ever experienced that? 99% of people are gonna say, oh God, yes. You’re gonna get curious about that.
What did they do? What did they try? How did it not work out the way they intended? Then you’re gonna narrow the funnel and you’re gonna say, have you ever had a time when somebody really had your back really looked out for you? What did they do? What did it feel like? And they’re gonna get a smile on their face as they’re thinking about a moment when someone really looked out for them.
You’re priming them for the next stage of the conversation. You’re getting hints about what benevolence actually looks like to them. What, what matters to them. Then you’re gonna narrow the funnel further and you’re gonna say, what is success for you? How do I help you get there? What would it look like if I had your best interest at heart?
Now you’ve created an opportunity for transparency because later on when you follow up and try to act in their best interest, you can say to them, you remember when you told me that this is what good looked like for you? What success was for you? This is me trying to help you get there.
I love that. Thank you so much for that. And everything else in the discussion, I feel as though we could talk for hours and hours on this topic. Just want to wrap things up with one final question that I like to ask all of my guests who come on the program. What’s the aha moment that people have when they come to work with you that you wish they were, they knew in advance they were going to have?
So when people hear that we’re gonna do trust training, they often think about hot calls and blindfolds and falling off of things. Trust building is a skill that we can all get better at and. I wish I didn’t have to take quite as long explaining that to them, making it clear to them, because we need to be more intentional about building trust now than we’ve ever had to be in the past.
Our relationships tend to be a mile wide and an inch deep, and we’re losing the ability to build deeper, more resilient relationships. So I wish that people could realize right from the start that this is a skill that they can invest time and energy and to get better at.
I love that. And I will go on the back of that and say, I think that extends as well to when people are starting or building personal relationships in terms of just interactions on a direct messaging service, on a LinkedIn for example. Don’t go straight out and start selling your stuff. Build a relationship.
Find something that makes you vulnerable or an interest with people so that. When it gets to the point of curiosity about what you do, there’s already a trust factor that’s built in there. You really have to know that every time someone sends a message that says, oh, thank you for connecting, here’s all the stuff I do buy from me, right?
It just doesn’t work.
It doesn’t, and I tend to respond by saying, you could really use some trust training. Buy from me.
Yeah, I love it. And just in and I do wanna mention as well for everyone listening in that there’s a couple of things that you can get in touch with Daryl on. Firstly, as we mentioned, is the Imperfect Cafe, the podcast, and also there’s the book Building Trust, exceptional Leadership In an Uncertain World.
You can learn lots more from there. Darryl, I thank you for being so vulnerable, so generous, and for. Showing us all how trust can be built, and I look forward to having future discussions with you.
I’d love to stay connected and thank you for having me.
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In this episode of Biz Bites for Thought Leaders, Anthony Perl interviews Barry Cryan about implementing effective business systems.
Key points discussed:
- The critical difference between businesses that thrive and those that struggle
- How to identify which processes to systemise first
- Practical steps to document your business systems
- The role of technology in creating efficient systems
- How proper systems allow business owners to step away without everything falling apart
Offer: Check out his website.
Business systems for growth. How to build a high performance business that runs without you. Welcome to Biz Bites for Thought Leaders, the podcast where we deliver actionable insights to help you grow your business. We discover little bits of brilliance from guests, including today’s Barry Kre, who specializes in helping business owners implement systems that create high performance businesses.
Now lots of questions that you’ve got to answer. Lots of questions that you wanna ask that I’m going to get answered. I can guarantee for you. ’cause we are gonna learn all about businesses that struggle and how to make them perform at a high performance level. We are going to match that up with ideas around athlete.
Some things that you can understand, and the fact of the matter is there are some really great insights coming out of this episode that are going to make you understand how you can perform at a high level more consistently, and how you can implement systems that can ensure that you do that and find that work life balance.
Yes, that controversial subject work-life balance. We’re gonna discuss all that whole more. Let’s get into this episode of Biz Bites for Thought Leaders.
Welcome everyone to another episode of Biz Bites for Thought Leaders and we’re traveling all around the world. This time round we’re going across to Ireland and welcome Barry crying to the program. Thank you so much for being a part of it.
Thanks a million. I just need GR here.
Now we are gonna cover a lot of territory today because I’ve got some insights into what sort of things you do and what you cover, and there’s a lot for people to listen into.
But let’s just start off by allowing you to introduce yourself to everybody.
Yeah. So look at Anthony. I’m gonna high performance positivity coach for small business owners. Generally what I’m doing is put systems and structures in place for them so they can get the bulk outta themselves and therefore get the most outta their
business.
And there’s a lot to unpack when it comes to that sort of area. And I’m gonna start at the very beginning of that ’cause you talk about high performance. And we mostly refer to high performance, in terms of athletes or machinery is high performance achievable in business in the first place and what actually defines high performance?
Yeah. Look, ab absolutely. First of all, absolutely it is. It’s we can operate at different levels. It could be in sport, it could be, in a personal life, it could be in business as well. And high performance really is, it’s maximum life and what you can do with your potential, so some people are operating at a 2.0, some days they might be operating at a 8.0.
Other days high performance really is getting as close to that bar as, as close to that 10.0 version of yourself. As you can, and that, that’s where my goal is. Again, I talked about systems there and structures of without those you can never really consistently achieve your maximum.
And that’s the same in our personal lives or the athlete that’s trainer for the Olympics. They have to follow a process. They have to follow a system because when you do, you get predictable outcomes. And that’s literally what we’re, what we talk about is if you’re predictable, possible, predictable systems, you wanna get predictable outcomes.
And ultimately, if you can get the most out of yourself, then you’re gonna get the most out of whatever it is you’re doing, be it, sport or be it business as well. Co it’s absolutely 100% achievable without systems and structures. It’s up to the lap of the guards really, whether you get there or whether you, how much you get out of yourself.
When your system is in place. Correct those predictable outcomes and ultimately get as close to that 10.0 version of yourself as possible.
Before we delve into systems and perhaps some of your background to getting there, let me just ask you this question because you’ve, drawn the parallel to athletes, for example, training for the Olympics, if you are running the a hundred meters or a marathon or whatever sport it is that you are doing.
If you are not hitting that ideal, you know your best of time every single time you go out there, that just isn’t really possible. And that, in football teams as well. Commonly you’re building up to the end of season to a grand final series. That’s, it’s a matter of building up to that point.
So when you talk about high performance and the expectations of business, you can’t be going in, I imagine and expecting that you’re gonna be able to perform at that 10, 10 out of 10 level on an everyday basis because you’re going to have some buildup and some fluctuations. Yes. So
it’s like the way you look at it is it’s number one what’s, what are you going after?
So if there’s Olympics, it’s a certain time or maybe a certain place in life or in business, it’s certain goals. So what we do is we start with the end of mind and look, okay what is your goal here? What are we aiming for? And then it’s reversal engineer, it’s reversal engineering back from that point then to say, okay, what is that I need to do on a daily, weekly, monthly basis to get there?
And then it’s, yes, it is, it’s that 10.0 of where you’re at. So where you’re at now versus where you’re gonna be at six months or six years is gonna be completely different. So operating at that optimal level of where you’re at right now, so you can ultimately get there for a quicker. And you’re building in that consistency because if you have, again, if you think about it you head out the road and you don’t have an end destination in mind.
You’re gonna end up anywhere. So it’s half that end point and reverse engineering back from that to say okay, what do you think need to look like on a daily, weekly, monthly basis in order for me to achieve that end outcome? And it’s then it’s built on structures around yourself in order for you to be at that.
Best version of yourself as consistently as possible. And yes, that’s gonna change over time. That, that, that think he always listening to him and he was talking about, somebody asked him, who’s your hero in in 10 years time? And he said look at, I’ll come back to you on, I said, he met the guy a couple of months later anyways.
And he said, look at who’s your hero on 10 years time? He said, my hero on 10 years time, but it’s me. And he said I am my hero. On 10 years I’ve that future word for me. Okay. And that’s what it is. It’s like the person that you meet in five or 10 years time, that version of you is gonna be different because you’re gonna evolve.
But it’s been, that best version of ourselves from now means we’re gonna be a far better version of ourselves in 10 years time. So we’re being the 10.0 version of where we are now, and again, that’s gonna change in a year, five years. 10, 10 years. But it’s consistently being that version of our status.
Of what we’re possible, of what’s possible and what’s what we’re capable of. Right now.
Now just, I’m just gonna break for just a second there. We’re getting a little, I’m getting a little bit of dropouts there, but I’ll keep pushing on, just so you know that if I pause for a moment or two, it’s just, there seems to be a little bit of, I have to press that internet lag, but we’ll be good to press that.
Why don’t you talk to me a little bit about your background as well, because I think before we can understand how you can add the value here in this is, let’s understand where you’ve come from to get you to that point where you can actually give people this advice. So tell me where it all began for you, what was the career journey that you’ve been on?
So basically my own background basically I was a safety engineer. I worked across the pharmaceutical industry here in Ireland as a safety engineer at, that’s literally. My own background and never, like always just focused and blinkered on my own career and what I was doing. And things changed for me.
I remember I just woke up one morning. I felt like almost absolutely like symptoms, aches and pains spiraled into worsening type symptoms. Brain fog, short term memory loss, real chronic fatigue. Over a period of weeks and months, it just started getting worse and worse.
And I couldn’t really find any answers what was happening. To me I couldn’t find, any solutions because doctors couldn’t find out what was wrong with me. And I was not performing out at all. I was struggling to get ideas work done. I used to have to, lock myself in a room for maybe.
15, 20 minutes trying to rest my eyes so I could recharge myself to go again for the next maybe 90 minutes or two hours. That’s the only way I could actually get through my day as I go home that evening, fall into bed, rinse and repeat. The next day I was probably getting about one day’s work done really in every five.
So I was, really not performing for them. I was like I like number one, I can’t, I’m not doing my job effectively. Number two, I, going to struggle, struggling to find answers and solutions here to what’s actually wrong with me. And actually went on for over two and a half years, and I was like, I have to find a better way to get more outta myself, with my reduced capacity.
So I was looking out and I was like, okay, who out there is doing, what I want to do with, at a much higher level? And it was like, I looked out in industry and looked at the likes that Richard Brads and the likes of these guys, the house, Branson is over 500 companies and.
Like how does he operate in aesthetic that allows them to do that and get so much more outta the time that he’s putting in? So that’s where I went, start going down the whole rabbit hole of performs productivity. And to get an understanding of I don’t have to reinvent the wheel. What are people doing?
That, that may help me. So I started belt battle test on some of their strategy, going down the whole Robin Hole at workshops from book and seminars and YouTube and literally taking strategies, testing it, implemented it, scared what didn’t work, take what did work. And eventually I started to see some commonalities between how the best in business do live.
I started applying then to my days and eventually I got to a point where I was getting so much more outta the time that I was putting in. I was actually getting about five days work done in every one at the end and not while I was still as, while I was still sick and looking for answers and solutions.
So I was at a completely different level of performance first with where I was and I didn’t think anything I was, I just. Went about my own work. I was still knocking on doors looking for ads for solutions. Anyways, two and a half years went by and eventually I got to the point where I was like, really, I was seriously worried because it was getting worse and worse.
So I had no short term memory whatsoever. I came across a local newspaper here and there was a woman on the paper talking about how she had never touched symptoms to myself. Just through a kind of series of coincidences, I got in contact with her. She was actually getting treated for this autoimmune condition that she had at the time.
She got me in there with her consultant. I got tested and sure enough I turned out that I had the same autoimmune condition as her. So I ended up, because the, that there isn’t much specialist knowledge in Ireland. All it, I ended up at the Czech Republic for a month, basically in a room by myself, and it gave me a lot of time to pause and think about my life, and I was at that point then where I was like I have tools and systems here and I looked around thinking about the office back at home and I was like this person is operating off sticky notes and this person, has a bit of a list and this person has no system whatsoever.
And I was like, but there is a better way. Maybe people don’t realize there’s a better way. I didn’t until I had to no choice but to count that go down this rabbit hole. So I started documenting things a bit more formally over there. Started helping out a few people when I came back, just rined, stuff like that.
And then that kind evolve then over COVID, whereas I started like seeing them get results and I was like, okay, maybe I should get this stuff out to a wider audience. Start putting out free stuff on online, doing free master classes. And that evolved over time then into the business coaching program.
That I have now. So it was just never started out at all, was created for my own need. I just evolved from that end into something that now I know how to people and that’s what I do.
It’s a fascinating journey and it’s one that I think that’s the interesting thing about someone such as yourself is that when you’ve experienced it. And you’ve ridden through that and delivering that. It’s so different to what is traditionally the method of coaches, which is, look, I’ve learned how to be a coach and I’m going to tell you stuff.
And there’s a lot of coaches out there that perhaps fall into that category. And so when I think when you’ve lived and breathed it, it’s a different beast.
Or not 100%. Yeah, 100%. I’ve, like if one person that came to before and they were like, yo, show me your, your coaching certificate and all this sort of stuff.
And like you can have certificate coming out the, co coming out the door work, but it’s really, it’s what you do, does it work? And there are people getting results from it. That’s the core thing. And often case with it’s created from your own need. That you’re damn sure that works because you have that, that practical hands-on experience of it.
Actually you need this. You implement it yourself and seeing it work as opposed to here’s theory, go now and try it for yourself.
Tell me how much is adapting and changing? ’cause there’s one thing when you build something around what suits you and everyone is, has their own individual quirks and backgrounds and feelings and all the rest of it That makes us human. And so with all the best of intentions, what works for you may not work for me.
So how do you find that balance and how much do you have? You had to tweak things over a period of time.
So I suppose first of all it’s like where I started and evolved and came from. I had really great opportunities to actually learn what helped other people. Then because of the free stuff I was putting out.
I would be able to adapt and change and tweak things. It’s based on feedback, based on how I see people implemented, based on see where I could actually improve on this and make things better. But at the it’s all based around one core framework. I call it my FEST productivity format and the framework, it’s the same framework for everybody, but it’s the inputs into that framework that gets the framework to work.
Okay. The first thing we do is, okay, it’s what I call our time officially accelerator, which is where we have to see, okay, exactly where you’re at. Okay. What’s baseline looking and what? What’s happening in the business right now? What’s happening in your days? What’s the ROI from the time that you’re putting in?
Where is your energy going? Where’s your time going? What are the outputs? As in where do you ultimately want to be? What’s the vision for the business? What’s the vision for your life? What are your goals? What are the kind of things that. You want to achieve? What are the milestones? And basically reverse the engineer all that back.
Okay. And we build it into a complete performance blueprint that we can actually build that framework around that system around. So the framework is the same for everybody else because you have to have a framework in order for you to get predictable results. But if the inputs into that framework that gets it to work, the inputs, which are different for all of us that gets it to work and then it’s after that, it’s I often think of us like that.
The toddler is trying to get the square peg in the square hole. It will go in there, but it’s dexterity isn’t informed and it’s like we have to tweak and adjust until look at that square peg goes in there and then that’s where people start to really see the benefits. For them it will fit, but as we’re all human.
We need to tweak and adapt it slightly to the individual. Then, ah, even after that point,
I wanna get into the whole idea of creating those. Systems and the tweaking of things as they do it. But I think there’s a, there’s an important aspect to talk about as well as you building towards this, and it’s something that I know you, you have front and center even on your website, which is the reference to work-life balance.
And this is, this has been a bit of a hot topic that I’ve had over the years with people because it’s a terminology within itself that is sometimes controversial, let’s just say. Yeah. I’ve posted in the past and said, work life balance and I’ve been, wrapped over the knuckles saying there’s no such thing.
What’s your take on that whole idea of work-life balance? Is it just an easy term that really means some, doesn’t really mean balance. Or what, how do you see it? So
In terms of work life balance I think there, there are seasons in our life as well. So you have this big thing that you want to achieve in the next week or the next month.
You sometimes it is, it’s working harder. It’s working longer. It, as long as it’s a season, as long as it feeds into the bigger picture, doesn’t mean you have to pin it at, 5:00 PM every single day. There’s days where social can go off track. There’s where you need to pivot or adjust. So it’s looking at the bigger picture of your life vision and ultimately what do you want to achieve and what do you want things to look like?
And it’s really building in place processes that, that allows you to achieve those outcomes where it’s not gonna impact on your health or your energy or your family or any of those other things in your life. So it’s about taking holistic look at everything and then designing that future vision of what that would look like.
Reverse engineering back from that point then. And then that’s it’s are you working? How are you working? Smart. Okay. It’s if you’re, if you have to put in, seven to 80 hours a week every week, and you’ve been doing that for, the last six months or the last five years, or the last 10 years, there there’s something wrong somewhere.
There’s something missing somewhere. So definitely it’s it has to be a, a holistic look at everything. In order for you to achieve, what you want to achieve without burning the candle or, sacrificing your personal time or your family time. And then I was saying maybe a time there is a fees in the way you need to put the extra hours or extra time that has to feed into the bigger picture.
So it’s it’s all about the bigger picture and where that actually fits into it.
Yeah, that’s it. It is true what you say in terms of seasonal, different stages of life, right? It’s can make a big difference when you’re on your own. It’s much easier to put more time into work potentially. When you’ve, as you maybe get married or certainly have children, once children come into the picture, it completely changes your perspective on things because you do want to spend more time with with your child, which means, invariably when they’re particularly young, it means you actually have to be home or available at least at certain times of the day.
’cause there’s no good coming home at eight o’clock at night and the child’s in bed at seven o’clock. It’s, there are lots of those things that come into the picture. So part of it is adapting. I imagine as well to, to where you’re at in your life and where your business wants and needs to be.
Yeah, it is, of course. It’s, yeah, there, there’s like that, for example, if you’re a startup business, then absolutely it’s gonna take more time. It’s gonna take more energy versus the business that’s established. So it just depends where you’re at. But the core part of it is it has to be. You have to be working as smartly as possible within the relevance of, what you want to achieve.
I’ve had people come to me and they could absolutely kill it for, a solid 12 hour day and focus Absolutely maximize their output, and then they’re flat as a pancake for five days after. It has to be sustainable as well. What you’re doing, you have to be smarter. And it’s a bit like we talked about athletes earlier.
Yes, we need to sprint, but we need that recovery time as well. So there has to be a delta into the picture. If we’re not getting recovery time, guess what? We’re not gonna be as effective tomorrow. And then we try to outwork that by working landlord tomorrow, and then we, therefore we get less recovery time and then we get into this vicious loop.
So that’s what that has to be considered as that.
I, I hear what you’re saying and I think that the trick, which is the next part of the conversation is getting your systems in place, right? It’s actually how do you actually make this possible so your business can function? Because the ultimate dream, of course, for most solo business O operators is how do you get it to a point where the business can operate without you, so that you can take that, holiday or.
Or it might just be taking some time off during the week so you don’t have to work five days a week, whatever it looks like for you. That’s the dream certainly at an initial point. So how important is it to find those systems? How easy is it to find those systems so they, is that something you can coach at a high level or is that getting into the nitty gritty?
Yeah look, it’s like a game. That’s what is it you want to achieve in your life? And everything revolves around systems, like everything, because systems must be reduced. The amount of micro decisions we’re making, systems take away a reliance of willpower or discipline or motivation or all these things that are really fleet things that come and go over time at the ent, they explode.
So what is it you want to achieve? For me, say in my personal life, I try to avoid sweets and sugar. Stuff like that, Monday to Friday. And if I didn’t have a system in place for that, I’d always be making my decisions. Will I have it now? Will I have it later? Will I, how much of it will I have? And then I’ll clear it in because sheer decision fatigue.
So instead, my system is, I don’t have it in the house Monday to Friday. My only decision is when I buy, when I go to the shop, the weekend. So that’s reduced hundreds of micro decisions across my week, down to one decision. Okay? That’s a system. So it really is what are you looking to achieve? Again, start with the interwind and reverse engineer back from that, okay?
To see, okay, in order for me to achieve this, what systems do I need to actually build around me to it to enable, let me to do the thing that I need to do. Yes, thought it could be personal review systems, it could be, systems for business. But everything comes down to systems. If you want to achieve a predictable outcome, then you have to create a system around you that enables you to do that.
Yeah, I, it’s. It’s easy to talk about. It’s difficult to implement, isn’t it? Those little things that can make a difference, like you said trying to identify those things that derail you. I know I’ve just been doing that myself in the last couple of days and came to this, realization I knew was always there that I was being dictated to by my phone and that I needed to turn the notifications off on my phone like permanently.
And it’s actually takes a little bit of getting used to when you’re making some of those sorts of changes because I had this feeling when I did go and check my messages and go, oh my goodness, I had all these text messages and this message on what’s happened. I didn’t respond to it straight away.
And then I realized if. No, I actually had some quiet time during the day to get a few things done because I wasn’t doing that, and it’s very, so those little things, like you say, knowing that you get a sugar rush and you shouldn’t have the sugar during the week, so you wait till the weekend like.
There’s two components to this. Really. There’s the recognizing it in the first place, or probably three, recognizing it, wanting to do something about it, and then doing something that is actually gonna meaningfully make those changes to improve those systems, because that third part is hard.
Yeah, of course.
And I it’s we have to almost. The ourselves from ourselves, we have to almost eliminate the profitability for not doing the thing. It’s in manufacture plants, they have called the cheeks or the fixtures to create, a duplicate inter interchangeable parts that you know at scale.
So they don’t have to cut up or cut or cast a new parts every single time. So that massively reduces the amount of areas where things could go wrong here. And it’s the same with herself. Like I had a woman recently and she was a devil. Her. Hopping on Instagram in bed at 11 o’clock at night, and she, they’ll scroll it through videos at two, three o’clock in the morning.
So instead of trying to motivate her or tell her to have more discipline around that, like we set, we just set up a system that would eliminate the possibility for that. So does set the phone, that would time her out basically, after 15 minutes she could do it. She could do it for 15 minutes. That’s her little reward at the end of the day.
Then she got timed out and then she can’t go back on it again till the next day. So again, it’s eliminating the possibility for it not happening, if there’s little friction points to it. It’s reducing those friction points to make it easier for it to happen. And it’s it’s, again, having a process that means either completely unlikely or to for not to happen or it’s, you’ve eliminated the possibility for that happening.
How easy is it for people to recognize. What it is that they need to be tweaking, if that’s the right terminology, to be able to improve their performance. How? How easy. It’s like I had the realization, but probably prompted by someone else. Yeah. With regards to the phone. How do you identify what other things, the phone is an obvious starting point ’cause it does, I’m sure it does impact a lot of people, but there are less obvious things and so how do you find that within people and help them recognize it, as that first step?
Yeah, that’s a great question that it really comes down to, measuring and managing you can’t manage what you can’t measure. So what we do is we literally look at everything that’s happening in their daily weeks, okay? I have an AI tool that I built to actually track what they do, where the time goes, where their energy goes, where their focus goes.
That actually is able to measure that. So we can actually see what is happening in their days? Where is their time going? What’s the ROI from the kind of things they’re working on? What are the kind of things that pulling ’em off track or distracting them or interrupting them, could, we can build out a full picture at the very start and when we use that picture in front of them and we sit down without me even there anything.
They can up with pinpoint and get that aha moment to say, actually, I didn’t even realize I was doing as much of that, or didn’t even realize I wasn’t doing enough of that. It’s really getting the data at the very start to the, okay, this is actually what’s happening in real terms. It’s not based on what I think it’s in or looking back at the weekend and kind of wonder, Jesus, what did I do?
Or where did I go off track? It’s in real time actually, man, measuring this stuff so that over a period of time we can build up a full picture. And then when we have that level of data then it’s clear then this is, these are the systems we need to build around you and nobody in order to enable you to achieve the end outcome you’re after.
Yeah. Those systems are so important. Does that scare people? Being able to systemize it. How easy is it? There’s so many tools out there now in terms of automations and various things like that can help with systems. What is the right place to start when building it?
And what does systems in real terms look like?
Like I person come to me recently and she was like, I’ve, I have this, I’m going to do the AI tour, and I was going to train me how to do all the. I used the utilize these 30 AI tools, it’s gonna be great. You know what you think should I do it?
And I was like what’s the outcome you’re after? And she was like I’ll get to use all these 30 AI tools, but I know what’s the outcome you’re after ultimately when you use these tools? And she didn’t know. So it was like you start with the end of the mind and you reverse back from that point to say, actually what do I need?
Okay, do I need all these 30 AI tools or do I need just one or two tools? To make my life easier. Okay, do I need all these things or do I need just a couple of things? So it’s like, what’s the outcome you’re after? And reverse the engineer backing that. Okay. For example, if you want to, cook back on working hours and your are just, from an efficiency point of view, then it’s okay, that’s one of the, that’s the end point.
You’re working at this level baseline, okay, this is what you want to get down to. Then we reverse engineer back from that point. For example, somebody wants to increase turnover in their business by agile. Let’s say, 20%, okay, we start with the end of mind. We’re first engineer back from that.
What do we need to do? We have to bring in new client, 12 new clients. Okay. Step back again. What do we need to do? We probably need to bring in a one new client, say every month. Okay, back again. Step back. What do we need to do? We need to probably bring in about four new leads a week.
Okay. In order for you to bring in four new leads a week, what do you need to do that? I have to spend about two hours on market then. Okay. In order for you to spend two hours on marketing on what you need to do you know what’s the best thing to do here? That’s where the fifth clubs come in.
Then do we need a VA that we can delegate that will actually do our LinkedIn outreach or social media post? Do we need to carve out in your schedule a two hour block for you? Go through a certain criteria to actually, to bring in those four new leads so it all gets. Which starts with the end in mind, we reverse back from that, and then from that then it’s very, becomes a lot clearer what you need to build around you system wise, in order to enable you to achieve the pain.
Then at the end of the day.
Yeah, that’s a it’s a great advice, great piece of advice to start at where, what you want to achieve because you can get trapped in systems and building systems for systems sake. And then micro managing those systems. I know I even experienced it recently where I had someone who had tried to build a system for part of the business and.
There was actually I realized that after it was implemented going, there’s more effort in trying to. Fill in the steps of the system, then there is in actually doing it. And so the system got too, we just went too minute in detail. And so you ended up going I have to tick this, and this. And I thought I, no, I don’t like, just lump some things together and do that.
And I think that’s an important part of this in getting the system right as you say, it’s focused on the end outcome. So the best way to achieve that without necessarily always having to go into the minutia of detail.
Yeah,
it
is. It is a course and it doesn’t have to be complicated.
Ful is better. Like the example I gave you with sweet and straw wasn’t this big complicated thing. It’s just they’re not in the house. Okay. I don’t have them in the house. That’s the rule. And then it’s much easier to get one division right, and have one rule that have, get a hundred decisions.
Simple. Simple is much better, comes off a hundred percent.
Let me put you on the spot a little bit. Give me a couple of, you, you pick the number. Give us a few tips for people who are looking to build systems for themselves in the business. What are some things that they need to how to identify what systems they should be putting in place and what they need to do?
Look at it’s the, again, going back to it, okay, what is it you want to, what is it you want to achieve? How would you like your days to run? How, ’cause I get people out there yeah, but this is the way it is right now. What about if, if I do, if this happens or that happens, or what about if I don’t hit this target and I don’t worry about the way it is right now?
Yep. I just lost you there for a minute. Yeah, I just lost you there for a minute with your internet picture is now saying it’s good. So do you mind just taking that back and answering that question again about just from the top about some of those tips. Yeah, a hundred percent. So a again,
it’s what, how would you like things to be?
How would you like things to run in your day? Like at a person that was talking to me recently and we were talking about this, her certain goals and targets and obvious saying, look it, they’re not specific enough. You don’t have figures, you don’t have dates, you don’t have any of that kinda stuff.
And if you just want to make more money, that’s. What does that mean? That could mean an extra five bucks in your pocket could mean an extra million at end of the year. What is it you actually want? And she would say, yeah, but what if I lose a client and I’m not hitting it and that you won’t motivate me?
I’m like, don’t worry about all the things that could go wrong. Think about the way you want it to be. Okay. Think what you want to achieve. Okay. And then it’s what do I need to do in order for me to get there? Okay I can see this is the ideal outcome. This is what’s happening right now on my days.
How do I get there faster? Okay, so I’m working on hours, I’m spending too long doing okay. We use the marketing example there. I’m spending three hours per week doing marketing and okay, it’s fine. Let’s, one system we could do is, one thing I do is. Is build playbook. So very simply, you have a loop video.
You take the lymph video from you doing the task, it’s not actually taking you extra time. And then you upload that loop video to chat GPT. You ask chat GPT to act. Yeah, as a, as an ai delegation expert. And you get chat gt to actually build you out on step by step playbook. Based on this video, based on success criteria, how success looks like economistic to avoid and a full step by step.
Then we take these playbooks, we hand them over to vas@maxfiver.com or Upwork, and then we can delegate the thing that you need to do in order for you to achieve the outcome. So you can spend even worth time per in something that has a bigger ROI for you to actually achieve the end outcome you’re after.
It’s all about getting people down into their zone of genius, because if they get the people down into that zone of genius things only they can do as leaders, as business people, then ultimately that they’re going to achieve those goals much faster. Okay, so what else could, like either another guy that kept using the business owner just left as an engineer company in Dublin and he had this big triage process for QA and documents.
Okay. So his team would have to QA the document to make sure there’s no, and everything is just right. And then it would come to him for a second triage. Why he would spend them like probably the guts of a day every week, just triage documents as a business, order, an admin type task. So what we’ve done is we’ve built out a custom cheap pt.
Okay? So we built a custom AI tool that will actually do the triaging for him. Okay. That enabled him to get the guts of a did per week back to get on the business. Now again, in his sort of genius progression towards the goals. So it’s like, what is it you want? How would you like things to run? Okay.
How would you like things to be? And then it’s what are the things we need to do in order for me to get there? Okay. And it’s thinking really outside the box as well. Okay. It’s if you had to. Okay take this task off your plate. How could you do it? Sometimes we think we have to do X and we have to do Y, but there’s often a much better way for it.
Another guy I was working with there later, he’s a four hour invoice process to do every single week, and I was like okay. That’s again, not value add for him, as in this is somebody else could do. Or what we done was we completely automated the task in about 15 minutes. So we’ve mapped out of current workflow, we’ve mapped out the future ideal workflow.
Usually ai, build a playbook, hand that over again to somebody on five.com or rock worker or one of these outsource websites. And then when in three days yet that process completely or when I say completely, was about 95% to the automated. So again, we’re getting him further down to that zone agen so he can spend his time on things only he needs to do as part of the best.
The challenge with all of that for small business particularly, is spending money. That’s the hard part, isn’t it? It’s like it’s easy to say, great, we should have a VA that comes in and do X, Y, Z or we should have another person that does this. Yeah. And sometimes that money is easy and makes sense and I’ve often used this example and say, look, the first hire I had in business was a bookkeeper.
I loathe doing invoicing. I loathe doing the books. I take too long to do it and dreaded it every month when I was doing it. The best money I ever spend and, every month with my bookkeeper and shout out to Anna who I know listens regularly lifesaver. But the but it is a lot harder when you are, you’ve got someone who wants to begin regularly to do those things because it is about how do you equate.
Spending the money versus saving time versus being able to bring in more clients, do more work, so that you can pay those bills.
Yeah.
It has to
be ROI led. So again if it’s ROI led, it’s you go to a bank machine and yes, you have to put, a dollar into the bank machine.
But if your back machine is gonna give you back $2, $5 or $10 back, then you put that dollar in. I’ll do that, wouldn’t you? But unless you stay way in business, it has to be ROI led and when you can get down to the initial grad say, is this actually ROI led? Is there an ROI here? Then it, then it makes in to do the things.
So again, it’s not. A lot of people trouble mud against the wall and hope something sticks. It’s specific and pinpoint it. All of our oil lead, and by the way, hiring is not the first step. I always make AI express higher. Okay. Can we automate it? Can we delegate it? Can we can we divide that for that?
Again it’s one and done so you don’t have to hire somebody and now they’re doing the repeatable thing. That potentially could have been automation in the first place. Can we actually automate this process or. Must be reduced, the friction in the process. Okay. So we can streamline it. So we make AI our first hire.
Then we think, do we need somebody? And again, I wouldn’t typically recommend hiring somebody straight off the back. It’s okay, let’s bring somebody in. As and outsource this task to I’d say yeah, where it’s like maybe hourly, paid hourly or based on a block of time as opposed to now we, someone working full time on us with pressure on us to, to pay them.
Don’t know. Keep working in front though. What you can do is incrementally increase that. Then over time it’s like, what I always do is generate wins. Generate wins. You can see okay, the light bulbs go off and say, okay, if they can do this, Wallace, it’s could they do, that’s a thing with ai. Generate wins around all that so you can see the return on your investment of time.
’cause that gets people to buy in. And it’s if you could deal that, what else could be If we if our VA can do that now and it’s just working really well for us, what else could they do? And then the light bulb start goes off and then they don’t mind, but it’s r why lead? And it’s getting those quick wins at the start so that people really buy in to do the next thing or the next thing or the next thing.
There’s so many things that we could talk about here and there’s just not much time left, and I just wanted to get in a couple of things before we finish up. It’d be remiss me not to mention the book you participated as part of rise Above. Tell me a little bit about that and what people can expect from it.
And of course, preface it by saying we will make sure we include some details in the show notes so people will be able to access it. Tell us a little bit about Rise Above.
Yeah,
it’s,
so look I was lucky enough to, to quarter with Les Brown, myself and Nine Underwriters. We all have own individual chapter in the book and it’s really a series of inspiring stories of people’s journeys.
The, like myself had faced, really challenging and difficult situations. And how we overcame it in order to achieve the kind of things that we went on to do in our lives and our journey almost to, to this point. So it’s really, I often describe it, it’s a bit like, it’s basically the concept of if you ever read him stick for the Soul.
It’s basically not concept where our whole goal was just to inspire people that maybe come through a tough time, a difficult time, and knowing that, look at there is a light movement forward. And the times where I felt like, look, this isn’t working out. I didn’t know where to turn or where to go because I couldn’t find answers and solutions, but.
I I always seen then and liked that if you just stay consistent long enough, you’ll get there. And that’s was my message in the book. I know the other quarters were the same. If you just stay consistent long enough you’ll get there. Okay? Yeah. Les Brown has done great catch first, have done it.
He is the first chapter in the book and he says, look if you can look up, you can get up. And it seems difficult, but you can’t get up and you can move path, whatever those challenges are now. And when you do that, you just keep taking the steps forward. No matter how small those get, you’re going to get there.
You’re going get whatever it is that you want to achieve. There’ll be humps and there’ll be bump and be ups and downs. And especially in business, there’s that’s prior to the course, but if you stay consistent, whatever it is you want, you will get there. That’s really what the book is about.
Fantastic. Said we will make details of it available in the show notes so people can get a hold of that. And just before we wrap up, the question I always like to ask my guests is, what’s the aha moment that people have when they come to work with you that you wish more people knew they were going to have?
Yeah, I think it’s, yeah, I got it. We can normalize the way things are right now and we can think that this is almost just the way it is like this. It’s like I often think, the weather in Ireland, like when it’s day after day after rain, we almost feel like, geez, there’s never gonna be a sunny day.
And then when the good weather come, then it’s day after. So you feel this is going to go on forever and it can be the theme in our life and our business as well. But the big thing is to get people at quick wins at a nearly stage that they can say actually. It doesn’t have to be like this. I don’t have to put in 80 hours a week.
I don’t have to, I don’t have to feel stressed all the time during my days is to get people a quick win so they can almost say actually, there, there is a better way. For example, there was one woman who worked out recently and just one very simple thing. We bookended our day.
We either like a little 15 minute shutdown routine at the end of our day where it was like, this is your finished time. This is the time you, ’cause in business, obviously we’re not on a nine to five. It’s like you can work all the hours, you can work none of the hours. That one thing pulled her easement and her weekends back for her because work expects to fill the time available.
Okay? And when she seen that, it was like light bulb moment. Okay, what else can I do? Then she was all in. Okay. So it’s like, what is the one thing you can do that can make the biggest difference? Getting people, that one went straight away. They can say, actually, you know what, there is a better way.
And it doesn’t have to be like that because I can say it and you can hear other stage. But when you get those wins at an early stage, then that’s the moment where they’re all in.
Fantastic. I love so much of the information that you’ve given today. It’s such a not only a unique perspective in so many great stories, and I think there’s so much for people to learn from it. So I really thank you for being a part of the program and it’s lovely to speak to someone on the other side of the world.
Fantastic accent. We love it over here. Thank you so much for being part of the of the Biz Buys for Thought Leaders podcast. It was a pleasure. Thanks for having me.
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Business Growth Secrets, how to scale your business with Proven Sale Systems. Welcome to Biz Bites for Thought Leaders, the podcast where we deliver actionable insights to help you grow your business. I’m your host, Anthony Perl, from Podcasts Done for You. In today’s episode, I’m joined by Doug C Brown, who is the host of the CEO Sales Strategies Podcast, and he’s a business growth expert who specializes in helping business owners.
Implement proven sales systems that drive exceptional growth. In this episode, you are going to discover the crucial mistakes that prevent business growth, how to build scalable sales systems that work practical strategies to increase your revenue without. Burning out an important thing there. There’s a lot we’re gonna unpack and some great stories with Doug who has bought and sold, I believe 37 businesses in his time.
He’s clicked over a billion dollars in sales. He’s someone you want to listen to. So let’s get into this episode of Biz Bites for Thought Leaders.
Hello everyone, and welcome to another episode of Biz Bites for Thought Leaders and continuing our tradition of going all over the world. We’re hitting over to New Hampshire and I welcome Doug C Brown to the program. Welcome, Doug.
Hey, Anthony, thanks so much for having me here. I’m very grateful to be here.
Ah, it’s an absolute pleasure to have you here and I’m gonna get you to introduce yourself and we are just having a little bit of a laugh off air, weren’t we, about the fact that Doug Brown is is not an uncommon name. So we’ve got you as Doug c so that way we make sure you stand out. Tell us a little bit about you and your story.
I I started actually working at the age of three from my dad. In his business. Wow. Yeah. All my brothers did the same thing. We all slept not slept. We swept floors and didn’t sleep
on them, just swept them.
I’m sure maybe when I got tired I probably did. I did. I don’t remember. But.
Yeah, I was sweeping floors at age three. By the time we were six, they actually started helping us learn how to sell. They were putting us in front of clients and people were helping us out, with the orders and things like that. I can only imagine, back then I wish I had an in a sample of what my order sheets looked like back then, but.
We were and we worked with my dad for the most part. I worked with him until I was about 19 years old until I went into the military. And then I always had side businesses all the way through his businesses and through the military and through college or university, as some people call it, in the different parts of the world.
Over my life, I’ve actually built we’re on our 37th business at this point. Wow. So not all have succeeded. Some have some have broken even some have made some money and some have made a lot of money and we’ve lost a lot of money at times at, too. Got a fair amount of experience in doing that type of process.
But that’s my, kinda my business life. And, married, I have two kids and and it was interesting, lots of Doug Browns. We talk about Doug Brown, who’s a famous hockey player. I love hockey and music and a few other things. Funny today, ha, I thought I was talking to a, he was a drummer in a band.
And a kind of a. Famous band here in the United States and we were talking about me and he goes, are you Doug Brown that lives in Gloucester? And I’m like, no, that’s the other Doug Brown musician. So that’s why I have the C in there. It differentiates me.
Does the C actually stand for something or you just liked it?
Oh, I always say it’s charming, ’cause people get a little laugh out of it. But actually it’s Charles, it’s my middle industry, Charles. My mother was gonna name me Charlie Brown, not my father wanted to name me Charles Douglas Brown ’cause he thought it was distinguished. But my mother said, I’m not having a son named Charlie Brown.
There’s enough, challenges in the world. And I thank her for the best. Yes.
That would’ve been a hard one to have lived up to. Yeah. It’s interesting isn’t it, because there are of course, plenty of actors who famously put an initial there for similar reasons to you have that there’s already someone with a similar name and they put it in there, and that doesn’t actually stand for something.
I, I, if I’m not mistaken, Michael J. Fox, I don’t believe the J actually stands for anything. Oh, really? Yeah. I didn’t know that. The sound of it. Yeah. So there you go. A little bit of trivia to start us off.
Hey you know what? We might go on jeopardy someday and the show here and make some money.
Let’s hope so. Let’s hope so. Make some money is good. Speaking of making some money and as you said you’ve had a lot of businesses, which in of itself is interesting. We might come back to that, but tell me about the current business, because your focus is really, and the reason we are talking today is largely around giving CEO strategies to succeed and to grow.
Yeah. Yeah. So I mean in that, so I have over a, I think we’re over a billion dollars now in, in sales. We just added our next four, 4 million, I think that kicked us over the billion, which is nice. Yeah. Congratulations. That’s huge. Oh yeah, thanks. Yeah, it’s and I haven’t, I have another company that we started just recently.
It’s actually the insurance business. Life insurance and health insurance, which is. Super crazy here in the United States. And I love it. It’s I feel like I’ve come home ’cause of the, all the accumulation of everything I’ve done over the years. I still have the software business that’s called The Bit No, which is a automated, proactive follow-up system and and I still occasionally am helping mostly.
Consultants and some companies in the revenue growth aspect of it too. But I use a lot of that now going into the new business. Because we’re building agents and agencies and things like that within the company.
It’s, it’s a huge thing these days to, you talk about, automations, you talk about getting in and out of businesses, like that sort of stuff.
It’s almost taken for granted that people are gonna do that, but it’s not so easy to do that. And you’ve clearly had lots of experience in doing that, that in of itself is a huge thing.
Yeah. And it, the, you can get experience from reading and listening to others and, listening to podcasts like we’re doing and those type of things.
And I still do a lot of that and I know, I have people that I hang out with that are. They literally have billions of dollars, in the bank type people, they’re constantly learning. But I think the, nothing really, it, I shouldn’t say it this way, learning a hard lesson and learning it from YouTube versus learning it from your own bank account, being drained out.
It’s a lot, it’s a nicer play, sometimes those hard lessons that we learn are really not. They’re not failures, they’re just hard lessons. And that’s where we as human beings, we go, oh no. Anytime I have a GI get into one of those places. Andrew, I always remember Ted Turner, I had a a network over here called TNT Turner network television.
Yes. And at one time, he was losing $20 million a day. Wow. And I was like, first time I heard that I was like, all right, I don’t have problems. We just lost a, half million or whatever. And I’m like crying over it. He’s losing $20 million a day. And the thing about business is very fair, but it’s also very very clear about its rules.
It’s money out. Money in equals loss, break even profit. Really that’s business when it comes down to it.
It, yeah it’s simple, but it’s complicated of course, isn’t it? That’s the thing is that and I’m fascinated by the fact that you’ve had so many different businesses because the one thing that it does teach you is you have to be attuned to what the audience wants.
Yeah. I think that’s where a lot of businesses fall over because they go in with an idea and they go. I’m going to do this, but they haven’t actually engaged with an audience to find out if that’s what they want and they’re not adapting necessarily as they go along the way to what changes may happen and if that’s gonna be a lesson that you would’ve learn many times over.
Yeah, that was a hard, that is the number one thing really, when it comes down to when we’re starting a new business. Anybody listening, if you have not engaged your audience to find out, not if they like the idea, but actually if they’ll pay you ahead of time. For rolling out your idea. I think about four times more about actually rolling that business out until you can get them to pay for the actual idea.
And ’cause a lot of people will tell people, oh, that’s a great idea. And Andrew, Bob, Mary, Josh, whoever. Diane? That’s an amazing idea. I love that idea. And then we as entrepreneurs think, oh people are saying yes, but you and I both know Anthony, that if they don’t pay for it, it doesn’t mean that the business is gonna survive.
So that’s, it’s, I have made this mistake more times than I care to count, quite frankly, because we as entrepreneurs always go, oh, my idea is amazing. And. And I disagree with Steve Jobs. Just tell him what you’re gonna give him and the market we’ll buy. I think he got lucky, quite frankly, and had good timing.
You all you jobs people out there, please don’t send hate mail to myself or Anthony. But the, my experience in business is exactly what you’re saying. You wanna figure out whether you have an audience first and. ’cause there’s a lot of amazing products and services in the entrepreneurial graveyard because they just can’t sell ’em.
I had a a gentleman I talked to he was, came to me and his business was almost on the verge of going outta business. And Anthony, he invented a suit that if a paraplegic put it on, somebody who couldn’t walk hands, legs, didn’t move. They literally got up and could walk across the room and I was like, whoa, this is an amazing product.
But couldn’t sell it. He just was way ahead of his time. He just could not sell this product. I actually know there’s a company here in the United States. It’s worldwide now. It’s Starbucks. I actually know somebody who tried to do the exact model of Starbucks 11 years prior to Starbucks being founded and complete.
It was like, if you looked at the business, they were identical, but one of them tried to start it in the east coast of the United States, which failed and one of ’em started it in the west coast of the United States, which is today’s Starbucks. That’s a great point you bring up.
The second great point is. You gotta roll with the changes because if you don’t, your audience sometimes changes, the needs change, technology changes, inflation, recession, great economies, real estate up, down, all kinds of things happen. And if we don’t roll with that and understand and AI is a good example of that today.
And if you, if we’re not rolling with AI today. We are gonna have some challenges in, in almost every industry. I don’t know about ’em all, but certainly the many businesses are gonna be affected by ai. If you’re a, a solo entrepreneur and you’re a freelancer today, and you and AI can do what you’re doing, if you’re a graphics designer, you might survive it, but your clientele’s gonna change.
Yeah. And the way you operate is definitely going to change. You just, you were just talking about the innovation there and it made me recall a, an old gag from a comedian, Victor Borger, who you might have remembered from. Yeah. Long time back. And he has this little sketch where he talks about, my uncle invented the soft drink.
He tried something and he called it one up, didn’t work, tried two up, didn’t work. 3, 4, 5, 6, tried six up. Didn’t work, gave up. Little did he know how close he came
and someone else invented seven up and here we are. So it’s ex
Exactly. And I think, but that’s the truth is that you have to keep innovating in business.
And just because there are so many stories out there of businesses who had an idea and who. Failed or didn’t get the support. Famously that’s the Walt Disney story is that I think it was something like 34 banks or something of that nature that rejected rejected him before one said Yes.
And so there’s a, there is that’s the hard thing we, we talked about before, is that you have to be in touch with your audience and be, and, be as assured that’s, that what you’re gonna provide is something that they will want and need. Yeah. And then you have to be stubborn enough to keep pushing and going forward if you truly believe in it, because sometimes you’re going to get knocked back and it might happen several times.
You mentioned Walt Disney the ATM that we all, we don’t even think about. We put our card in the machine to get our money if we want to today, that took about, I think, 13 or 14 years for it to actually take hold because people thought it was gonna steal their money and eat it.
And there’s a lot. I remember I was born in 1962, feeling a little old when I say that, but I was born in 1962 and I remember when I was a kid, a child they were talking about electric cars, but people were. Vehemently opposed to even talking about it. So they used to say things like, I’m not driving a golf cart around.
I’m not doing that. Here we are in, 2025 and, government subsidies are being handed out for people who are buying, and driving. You got, Tesla is a pretty good sized company. You got others out there. The electric car is, becoming more of the mainstay at this point.
So certainly hybrid cars are so everything changes and you don’t wanna be caught, saying I learned how to repair that steam engine and I’ve got a job for life, because that doesn’t always happen and neither does your business. There are all kinds of just the nature of the a, the, the atom, is constantly changing.
And so we must, as you were saying, we’ve gotta be able to change with it. If we don’t, there, there are plenty of things. Some of you are probably old enough to remember the fax machine. I can tell you I have two daughters and they were like the heck is a fax machine, right? When there are kids who don’t remember a time without a cell phone tethered to their body.
And or learning. And if you look at today, you gotta use apps. You can, you can’t even do business some with some companies unless you have an app on your phone. And when I was growing up, the phone had a cord and.
Yeah. And it’s amazing how much it’s changed, just as you were speaking there, I was just thinking about, the fax machine. I remember when it came and I remember when it left, yeah. CDs were the same. There. There’s technology like that, and you’re right, the phone has changed so much. I, I used to not leave the house without a wallet.
I can’t remember the last time I had a wallet in my pocket.
Yes.
Why do I need it? I’ve got a phone. Yes. It’s things change and the, there is a generations that don’t remember what it was like before.
That’s one of the reasons that we started the insurance business, because insurance is not gonna go away.
It’s, it’s it might change form, but, we’ll roll with that and, it’s a great long-term business and. We all, we’ve all fall pre. There was a, when the automobile came in, they didn’t think it was gonna make it. People didn’t think, they didn’t think the horse was ever gonna get replaced.
When television came in, they didn’t think it was ever going to outdo. Radio television, I think got caught. They didn’t think that streaming was actually going to take over. The movie theaters or the, the TV itself to pay for television, my goodness. Like people now are paying for television.
We never paid for television. It was free. So it, it’s unless you’re
in the uk the UK by the way have been paying for television forever. There’s always been a tax to, or a levy that they have to pay every year for for licensing, for television, for free to Airtel free to air television.
Really? I, that’s super. So they’re the ones who started this paid television. Absolutely. They’re responsible
for it all.
Yeah. You, if people don’t, no matter what businesses they’re in right now, if you’re in the roofing business, I can tell you right now that environmentally friendly shingles are coming forth.
I have clients that, that, talk to me about this all the time. And they’re using it as a differentiation factor to come in because the old shingles, the asphalt shingles they can’t dispose of them like they used to. So there’s environmental factors. They don’t, they just don’t decay.
So there’s different types of room. Who heard of a metal roof years ago? Unless it was on an industrial building, yeah. Solar panels, they were a thought. But now they’re mainstay, right? There’s all of these things that, not just innovations of new products and services, but within our business.
My, my original college focus was on the medical field. My goodness, is that changed? It’s now like crazy changed, with not just the technology, but in the United States, it’s become way more of a business versus even healthcare. And if you were banking that it was always gonna be what it was 30 years ago, 40 years ago, and you had planned on being in that business, your business is very different or you’re no longer in business.
And to your point, Anthony, if they don’t roll with it, and that includes selling, if people, you know are still trying to sell like they were back in the. The eighties and the nineties, or the older sales methodology, the internet completely changed how we sell. Not because you could just buy things online, but because you could find information.
The sales channel used to be the expertise for people making decisions. And no longer is that the case because now. Pretty easily the potential buyer can have as much or more information than the sales channel even has themselves.
Yeah, it’s it is, it’s the truth, isn’t it? You walk into, particularly if you’re buying something of reasonable value, although it still happens, actually, I had this experience with my kids recently and they wanted to buy a book and they’re standing in the.
In the shopping center looking online at how much it is and they’re going into one shop and then another going we can get it cheaper over here so we can save $5 by going to this shop. And you don’t, I mean we, we went to a shop the other day and we were not buying, I think we bought a kettle.
That’s right. And it was advertised at a price that already said discounted. We actually didn’t even look it up. We went to the counter and said, is there anything better you can do? And they knocked $20 off it. Wow. They didn’t have to, but that’s the but they also know, the reality is that.
Majority of people would have looked it up and said this same kettle is $20 cheaper or $15 cheaper over here. So they not going to get the sale unless they do that. So that whole idea that people are very much armed before they walk into a store. You can’t have a sale no longer. Is there the opportunity for a salespeople to twist your arm with a few words because you know they know more than what you know because.
That is not likely.
No. And it’s it happens as you said, in the retail aspect or in the stores. It also happens in the manufacturing world. It happens in the software. I actually happened today. I a friend of mine introduced me to a new software company and they’re out of they’re in Pakistan.
And I’m like, okay, I’ll talk with ’em. And it turns out that they’re 20% more than my current development team, which is in a much higher cost area. And I asked them, I said, you’re in Pakistan. Correct. ’cause I know what the wages are in Pakistan. And they said, yes, absolutely. I’m like you’re five times what you’re supposed to be price wise from Pakistan.
Because, I’ve worked I’ve, I had a company in India, I know the region. So it’s, but it’s very easy to look things up online and know what a senior developer, for example, makes in Pakistan and Pakistani money. Which isn’t even close to what they were telling me.
They wanted to charge us for the price. So it’s that won’t happen business wise. I can also find out cultural differences. I can find out, if anybody, I had a company in India, so I can say this. They take a ton of vacation days. It’s in, compared to the United States, it’s very culturally different on the time off.
We can factor all these type of things in. If we’re looking to buy a laser guided whatever, machine for our inspecting the bottles and cans for our manufacturing plant, we can look up this stuff and there are people who are proud to put that stuff, that information out.
And we can find out all kinds of things before that sales person comes through the door, or before we even invite a sales channel. In. A lot of times there are meetings now that happen within companies. So that whole dynamic shift, will continue. Ever changing shift will always continue.
With AI today, it’s taking another shift. You can have conversations with it to elicit responses that you might have had with meetings with sales teams. And so you can have all the, those conversations ahead of time, so you can just zero in on these things.
So there, there’s, innovation is always a thing that’s going to happen. Adaptation is the thing that sort of lags. I think Anthony, that’s been my experience,
So talk to me, let’s get into this whole sales thing a little bit more because I know one of the things that you like to talk about is the the problems that people have with unpredictable revenue.
Pretty common problem in majority of businesses, and you’ve been through plenty of businesses back as a child, and the businesses that you’ve owned as, as well over the years with innovation, constantly changing. How do you actually teach? Sales techniques that are going to continue to work and adapt, be because of exactly that problem, unpredictable revenue and change that is happening in the areas that, that we’ve just been talking about.
It’s a great, that’s a great question, a great point. So firstly, math never changes. The outcomes might change based on the formula change, but the reality is that selling is really foundationally grounded in metrics in math. Revenue growth is f is grounded in metrics in math. So the first thing that we wanna do is always figure out what our true will goal is.
That’s step number one. And that’s the part that people miss. They like, I’ll talk to companies and I just talked to one, he wants to. He’s 7 million today and he wants to be 12 million within a year, which is not doubling the business, but it’s good growth for that type of business. And we got talking and I, it’s long story short, after we got talking, I’m like, what’s the real number?
He’s nine, right? So it’s if we design a plan and mathematically build a plan till 12 and you don’t. Wanna do that type of work or put the budget in to get that and all that other stuff, it falls apart. Frankly, it never gets off the ground. Most of that. I had a gentleman one time tell me he wanted to go from 3 million to 51 million in his first year, and he had no marketing budget whatsoever.
No sales budget whatsoever. It’s not gonna happen, right? Yeah he would’ve needed, at least in his industry, 5 million. Just for the marketing budget alone. So once we understand what the truth truthful goal is, then we can really start objectively looking at, ’cause we can put math to that process and then, so no matter what the economy’s doing or what the markets are doing, that never changes.
It’s a standard concept of and condition. So now, yes, if the, if the industry is, wreaking havoc. On on the business owner, conditions might change, but the math will never change. It’s always gonna be the same thing. We have this to sell at x with this is our cost of selling it.
These are, soft cost, hard cost, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. We wanna net this type of profit. We just figure out the mathematics at that point. We’ve gotta sell this many things at this and that at this. Going back to your original point, one of the, one of the foundational things that we do is who’s the ideal right fit buyer for those?
Because, most companies, frankly, are selling a lot of things that if they just focused on other things that are already selling, they would sell more and grow more than, the old Pareto principle, right? The 80 20 rule of 2080, 80% of your revenue comes from 20% of the clients, and 20% of the revenue comes from 80% of the clients.
I’ve never found that to be exact, to be honest, but it, the proportions aren’t really the key. What is proportion. What is important is that there is a percentage of clients who buy quicker, pay more, are a lot more fun to work with. And if we could identify those and double down on those with, and here’s the key, don’t give up the others because you don’t wanna knock off 20% of your revenue just to gain back if the other thing doesn’t work as well as you want it to.
But when you find out who that ideal right fit buyer is, your messaging gets clearer, your targeting is clearer, everything just falls into a lot more, of an aligned process. And from there, once you understand that, it’s okay, now how do we massively prospect to get these people? And then once we massively start to prospect to get these people, I always like to induce at least six new ways into a company that are working.
Within a year to grow a company. And then how do we automate those six ways, right? So we can free up our time and our monies. And it’s just constant influx of business coming in at that point. And so then how do we up our sales conversations and how do we anchor all the math to each one of these stages?
And I think one of the more important ones that people miss are there, there are two, and this is one of the reasons I developed the. Personalized follow-up system because I literally lost $125,000 sale by going on vacation. Yeah. The vacation cost me $4,000, so now you can figure out what my vacation really cost me.
And I was like,
I hope you got a couple of decent margaritas out of it.
Yeah. I actually thought I needed at least a dozen more margaritas after I lost that video.
Wow, that is a huge, yeah,
so follow up is super important. So we follow ups, the glue that holds everything together.
It’s the glue that holds the relationships together. And so we built that system. But I think one of the things that most people miss out of the whole thing, an Anthony and growing revenue is we can’t if we just grow the company revenue, but we as individuals don’t grow our mind. Like shape our mind to accept the new growth, accept the new challenges, accept the new responsibilities, accept the new fact that we are now doing way better than we were.
If we see ourselves at a, say a seven, but we grow to a nine, I see this time and time again, the entrepreneur will actually start coming back to who they believe their identity is and they’ll start sabotaging the growth. And so a big component is also conditioning that part of us because we all have desires, fears, wants, doubts, confidence levels at certain levels.
But we’ve gotta, we’ve gotta constantly keep growing that otherwise we and I’ve done this to my own businesses, I’ve done this, where I’m like, why am I doing this? I don’t know why I was doing it right. And then I figured it out and you gotta keep going in that process and keep growing.
If you want to continue to grow, going back to your innovation and things that are happening, the world will do this for us. It’ll kick us over and over until we understand that we’re not the center of the universe. We’re just part of it.
Yes. It’s a and that’s. And that’s an important lesson. It’s simple, but it’s the, but it is the truth that we often forget that there are other people around that matter. And it goes back to what we were saying in the beginning, really, that businesses need to understand fundamentally there audience.
And in order to be able to respond and to grow, and innovation is a part of it, because that’s part of the process as well, is that now there are expectations. We talked about it before, that the expectations of what people have are very different to what they were 20 years ago. And they’re going to be different again in 20 years time from now.
They’re probably gonna be different in a year’s time, the way change is happening. And, AI’s a good example. AI has come into sales. I know of a. Company that replaced 80% of their sales team with AI and they’ve had a 60% growth. And as a result of doing it, now, it depends what you’re selling.
That’s a low ticket, a hundred dollars a month kind of subscription idea where it’s fairly straightforward for people to understand and AI can sell that. Yeah,
And so to that point, Anthony, I think you’re bringing up a very smart cautionary phrase, which is, it isn’t for everyone.
Folks, you’re not gonna, probably in high probability, redu, take out a. Complex sales situation with AI today. It’s li unlikely to ha not happen, I should say. It’s unlikely to happen. Very likely not to happen. So before you run out and start deploying AI and kicking your sales team off, let’s do a thorough study on that one.
Yeah, it’s it is one of those things, isn’t it? And it’s cautionary with all of this sort of stuff, AI is a good example where some of these things are worth trying. There are some things that will take you to a certain point, but it does depend on the nature of the industry.
It does depend on the nature of what you’re selling. And in, in that particular case, it’s a product that. Doesn’t need isn’t going to, it’s not gonna be service driven, put it that way, that it’s, you’re not going to actually need to engage with a human. It’s a, it’s basically a software product that they’re selling a subscription to.
So it can make some sense in that market. But, I’m in a, in the business of podcasting, that’s not something that is going to be able to be replaced by ai. I know there are ais that can do certain amounts of things, but. We traded, we’ve traded a number of stories here today, and you can’t do that with an ai.
They’re not going be able to do that in the same way. And that human element and how we respond, particularly in a sales process is also important because often it is that rapport that you develop with someone, which has a big emotional stake in your ability to be able to connect and sell.
Yeah, I don’t know what the future.
Brings in that regard. Maybe in time podcasting does change, maybe in time, hugs change, maybe AI can create a hug feeling. I don’t really know, a rapport building. I don’t, we have a need as a human being to have other human beings in our lives. And if we, and I, this is the whole I would say pet peeve of mine, right? Where I think people are so far moved on the technology side that they’re actually getting away from the human to human side. And I see it in restaurants. I watch people in restaurants and they’re on their, they’re looking at their cell phones, like through, three quarters of the meal and barely talking to one another.
And I, I think, AI can do that. But I don’t think it will ever get to that. I shouldn’t say ever. I don’t see it getting to that place where it replaces what we’re talking about, what you’re talking about right now, Anthony? I think it’ll give it a shot for sure, because, the video cloning is so good now.
I can’t only imagine where it’s gonna be in another year where, you just feed it a script and. To ai, video clones or having a conversation back and forth, and it’ll be a little more hard difficult to discern, is it accurately. AI or not I don’t think like you, I, we just heard a dog in the background, right?
I’m assuming it’s your place because we don’t have a dog. Yes. I think
that I think someone’s decided that there’s something at the front door or a package is arriving, something like that. So there’s a. There’s a dog that’s going a little bit nuts in the background, so apologies for that.
No that’s the greatest part of AI can’t do that, right?
We can’t respond. The AI on this side would not go, oh, it’s a dog. At this point maybe down the line it could. But that’s how people, you and I are both human beings having a conversation and that’s, I don’t think selling ever will get that far away. That won’t happen.
But I do agree that if you’re selling a moderately low end or commoditized type process in most cases, AI will do an amazing job on something like that. If you’re buying a I don’t know, just pick anything a a. A piano for your kids, and you’re like, what? Piano sounds great.
And the AI can work out these things and tell you differences in these type of things. And you could probably make a decision to buy a piano, right? But if you are a concert pianist who is, playing at a high level, high end, you’re probably not ever gonna get AI to be able to get you to buy a piano.
You’re gonna want to go into a piano. Store or shop that’s been established for a long time was, has Steinway or Yamaha or a whatever brand you’re looking for, and you’re gonna wanna talk to people. So I think that, I don’t think that’s ever gonna go away. Personally.
Yeah, and it’s fascinating you say that because when my daughter was 12 and she had an opportunity, she got given some money and collected some over a period of time and wanted to buy a piano.
She only had a certain budget to it, but she was very strict. She had to play those pianos and wasn’t what anyone was selling her. It was sitting down and actually. Enjoying it and appreciating the sound and going through her own process. And it wasn’t something that you could have done online.
No. And it does make it, it does make a difference. And sometimes that, touching and feeling the product or service is an important aspect of of how we go about all of this.
Yeah. And I think there’s a place for AI to do that. And I think there’s a place for AI not to be able to do that.
And, I use AI every day of my life and it’s great for the things that I use it for. I just, again, those complex or those it’s really hard to f. I don’t even know if it’s impossible, but it’s certainly hard, I think, to emulate or replace what you’re talking about with your daughter.
And if you’re sitting into a piano and you’re feeling the weight of the keys and the touch and the feel and all of that, when she’s pressing down the notes, she’s gonna feel a little better playing a certain type of keyboard than another one. And they’re all different. And so I, I know this ’cause I’m a musician and I play piano and those type of things.
It’s the same thing for, a vocalist in a microphone. I don’t think, I think AI can make recommendations, but I don’t believe it’s gonna be able to pick the microphone for you until
you hear it. Exactly. There’s so many more things that we could have touched on and talked about and we do have to wrap things up, but I do want to ask you two final things.
One thing I wanted to ask about and we are only just going to touch on it, you talked at the beginning about an incredible background. I wouldn’t say slave labor at three years old, but starting work at three years old with your dad and I understand that, and that would’ve been an amazing experience.
And watching those businesses that he was involved with, going through the military, having many of your own businesses, what are the big lessons that you’ve learned from all of that, that you impart then in as part of the strategies that you give the people you work with?
So I had A mentor’s name was Richard Menino.
Richard has passed on. I have no idea why he even mentored me. He was very wealthy guy. I think I reminded him of a young hymn, when he was going through and he said something to me one day. And I think this encompasses what I learned in the military and throughout life. And as I get a little more seasoned in my years, I still.
I learned, I come back to this lesson, he said to me, son, ’cause I asked him, I said why do people not get what they want in life? Why do people like just not get it? Anything is pretty much achievable. I can’t imagine a male would have a, a baby unless it was a seahorse or something.
But, for most normal things, you can get what you want in life and if you’re willing to, and he said to me, he said, son, here’s the thing.
When you’re going for a goal, the only thing you can do is point your nose in that direction and take one step a day. He said, you just keep pointing your nose in the direction you know you want to go. And I promise you two things, one. It will take you two to three times longer than you figured. And two, it’ll cost you two to three times more than you figured.
But if you keep going, you will get your goal. And he said, oh, I didn’t answer your question. The number one reason people don’t get what they want is they quit. Yep. And I learned in the military you can sustain, all kinds of things for a period of time. I’m freezing cold and, combat, all kinds of things like that.
I learned from my dad’s business, you’re always gonna have ups and downs. When he was I was 16 and he had a heart attack, and my dad was the center of the business, and all of a sudden, I’m 16, I gotta run the business. So created a lot of confusion in my life at that moment.
But, I made it through, I just kept going. And then my dad, when he got better, he came back and the business grew again. And we did that as you’re always gonna run up against things that are always gonna challenge us. And the question is, how clear, and this is the reason I start people with a truthful goal and why they want it.
Because how clear are we? On that truthful goal and what we want, and if we are committed to it, we will get there. In most cases, I’m sure there are people who have not, but I know even in my life that’s been a very helpful thing. It’s not fun when you know there’s an old song, frank Sinatra made it famous. It was called, that’s life, you’re riding high in April and shot down in May. That was one of the lines I found that to be the way it is in business. It’s the way it is in selling. You have a great day and you’re like, oh my gosh, I just sold five outta six, and then all of a sudden, like four days in a row, no one’s buying.
And it can beat up on your mental and emotional. Desire to say, you know what, I’m going to the beach, or I’m gonna go, I’m gonna go to the pub, or I’m gonna, whatever. I’m gonna watch te tell you, but the reality is you just gotta keep focused. And this is the second thing I learned, Chet Holmes, when I was the president sales for Tony Robbins and Chet Holmes.
Chet used to talk about pigheaded discipline and determination, which means you just keep going like Dick. Menino said, and Tony always talked about can I constant and ever, never ending improvement. If we take those two concepts with what Dick Mino said, that’s how you get your goal. And that goes back to what we were talking about, where you gotta innovate and you gotta be fluid and you gotta be able to move through the process because it is not always a linear line.
So much great advice in that there. And it’d be remiss of me not to point out to everyone listening in and we’ll include some details in the show notes. There is a regular newsletter that you produce that people can sign up for and get lots of information on a regular basis about that. So we’ll include the details of.
In the show notes for everyone. Just a final question for this time, because I think there, there has to be more in the future. As I’ve enjoyed this conversation, I hope everyone listening in has as well. What is the big aha moment that people have when they come to work with you that you wish more people knew they would have in advance?
Wow, that’s an awesome question. I’ve never been asked that question. I’ve done hundreds of these and never been asked that question. The big aha moment that I see is, there’s two things. Number one, there’s rapid growth that can happen, and rapid growth, everybody has it on their own level. Anthony, right?
So I. I love working with solo consultants. I, it was one of those things that it was originally it was like they don’t pay enough. But, I’m at a place now where it’s I take clients when I wanna work with them. ’cause I got the other businesses, supporting everything else.
I’ll give you a couple of examples and then, a larger company, I had a gentleman, his that I worked with, his name’s Jonathan. And Jonathan was an interesting man. He’s super smart. He’s a consultant. He was doing 700,000 a year and he went from 700,000 to $945,000 in six weeks in revenue.
But we attacked. Not just the business side of it. And I don’t, when I say attack, I don’t mean blitz Creek. We attacked the things that needed to happen. But what he did was a great job was also attacking the mental side of the business because that’s what was holding him up. So when we can free that up, the metrics and the math and the application of that.
It can work very rapidly. I just was working, this just happened literally last week. Sam, he’s a, also a consultant and Sam we got a 20 x increase in product in production of outbound activity happening for two weeks in his business, and he’s already set. From the previous numbers, $450,000 in new business that’s expected to come through the door from this activity based on our close rate, right?
So you can have massive growth quickly. I have done this with large companies. Intuit, for example, which many people know the QuickBooks company, they do Rocket mortgage and a bunch of other stuff. They went from a $10 million loss to a $7 million gain in under a year, so in, in one division.
So these things can happen quickly. So I think that’s probably, maybe the shock and awe of it, Anthony. But what I really see happen with people is when these things happened. Is there, not only does their business life get better, but their personal life gets really better too because they, the skill sets they’re learning to grow that business and get that rapid growth directly impacts their personal life where they have better family relationships, better friendships more life satisfaction, all kinds of things.
So that’s what I would say.
Fantastic. So much great wisdom and I really appreciate everything that you’ve given us, and I think we’ve just touched the tip of the iceberg as it were in, in what we could discuss and go into. Doug c Brown, thank you so much for being an incredible guest on the Biz Bites for Thought Leaders Program.
Oh, Anthony, thanks for having me. Again, I’m very grateful to be here.
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